I?ve moved out of the family home and closer to family for support. Due to the harrassment and bullying I have had to endure from him I decided not to tell him where I live.
He has contact with the dd?s (3 and 1) every other wknd.
Cutting long story short:- received sols letter TELLING me he would collect the dd?s from MY address. Didn?t think anything of this as thought he didn?t know it?! I did not agree to him doing so either! So kept arrangements as before.
He turned up for his contact and started on me immediately (in front of the children). He was very threatening, swearing and shouting at me while I was handing over the dd?s to him. The eldest got very upset so I took her back inside to calm her down and went back out to get my other dd. He refused to let me have her and drove off with her.
Police were called. He also called the police, giving his version of events and saying he wasn?t bringing her back until his contact time was over!
He was late back! I asked a member of my family to take my dd off him because I didn?t want to endure any more verbal abuse and thought it might be best. He flatly refused to hand her over saying he would only give her to me and drove off with her again!
Police were called again. He told them he wouldn?t hand her over to anyone but me ? I asked the Police to bring her to me because of the incident.
The Police then informed me he knew where I lived as he had ?followed me home after one of his contact visits!!?
I?m at my wits end ? I don?t want him anywhere near me but know an injunction would make the situation worse.
My dd?s have had problems sleeping etc ever since he left and I have worked really hard to try and stabilise these problems and now all that has gone out of the window because they witnessed his unacceptable behaviour again! My eldest dd now clings to me everytime I take her into school and doesn?t want to be left, she also screamed at full volume and got extremely upset when I left her with family she normally adores for 2 minutes to post a letter!
I?ve received another letter from his sol TELLING me he now wants to meet me in a car park so there are witnesses?!!!!! No way will I meet him on my own ? even in public!
He is turning so nasty and I hate it ? He left me, so WHY is he doing this? This isn?t about contact with his dd?s it?s about being as spiteful as he can to me ? I haven?t done anything to him except move away (he wanted me out of the house and is now living in it himself!) and trying to get on with my life.
Do they get fed up of being so hateful to you? I can?t bear the thought of this going on for the next sixteen years or so?!
Any advice please on the situation ? he?s taking me to Court to get more access? Is this recent event likely to go against him? I really hate the fact that it?s my word against his (or vice versa) ? I just want to be left alone, for him to have his contact and then to go away till next time. The dd?s are suffering because of this and that?s not fair ? I?m only trying to do what?s best for them but he says I?m just being a bitch stopping him from having a relationship with them??!! and calls me a f?cking liar etc!!! I?ve never stopped him from seeing them ? I?ve just stopped him from messing me around with contact and tried to establish a routine for them! Why does he have to twist everything to suit himself?
Thought about a contact centre but this will reduce his hours with them ? don?t think I have any alternative though?! Any suggestions please? Should I really be bothered about him after his latest outburst ? it?s the dd?s I have to put first isn?t it!!
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loulounz · 18/01/2006 20:07
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