Taking me to Court for more access - any advice pls?

[loulounz]

Lots of you will know my situation, so I wont repeat. Have left my home to move closer to family for support, (hence reason for not being on net for a while) but the pig is still beating me down!

He has access, albeit minimum contact because of the affect it has on my dd's, but calls me an out and out liar when I tell him what happens after his visits! Have been to drs who are sending health visitor round but don't know how much this will help??

He says I am preventing him from having a relationship with his dd's (have NEVER refused him access, just don't allow a lot at present - he sees them every other weekend for a few hours) He is requesting the court allow him to take them to stay with him (at his family's house) every other weekend which is at least 9/10 hour drive both ways. My dd's are 3 and 1 and I just think this is so unacceptable. Surely at such a young age it's not fair to drive them all that way and take them so far away - what if anything happens? I would never be able to get to them quick enough and I would just die!

Do you think a Court will award him this access? I am so depressed at the thought of him taking them so far away every other weekend and I dread to think the affect it will have on them - they are having a REALLY hard time of this - How do I prove what they are going through? It's his word against mine isn't it! I am not emotionally ready for such a big step yet - will they take that into consideration also? He has never been a hands on dad - it's just the final thing he can attack me with!

Any advice how to approach things at Court please? Anyone got what they requested or did the courts just award dad what he wanted because he has his rights too??

[twirlingaroundthechristmastree]

I can understand your feelings.
Is there any reason for the court as to why he is not fit to have access?

And did you mean a 5 hour trip each way or a 10 hour journey each way?

And what did you mean by "not refusing him access but just not allowing it" exactly?

[MrsMiggins]

well I wouldnt have thought such a long journey appropriate every other weekend
what aqbout once a month & local access the other fortnight

I cant advise you but am in a similar situation


they do try to hit you where it hurts

hope you can sort it out - I will CAT you when Ive seen my solicitor incase she tells me anything that would be of use

xx

[7777777]

poor you, i have a 14month old son which his father is taking me to court for access and my solicitor said hed get 2hours a fortnight supervised access because of the young age and the fact that hes got no experience at all of babies/young kids (we split when pregnant). hes also got no commonsense so i would worry like mad if he got him unsupervised. the courts are really good and will do what is best for the kids AND for you. when i went to court in august the judge was so sympathetic to me and that pisd my ex off coz he sat there thinking "yes, im going to get my boy for weekends",(cocky git) he didnt obviously.at the moment im refusing him any access because of his intimidating behaviour and the fact access was in my home and i felt my mood changing the minute he walked in the door.please dont worry about the courts, although when i go back again il probably be posting on here again all upset!!xx