Child Maintenance - Ex is employed by his own company(30 Posts)
Hi, wondering if anyone has any advice or experience of this.
My ex has decided to set up his own company and as a result pays himself a wage. He is the only employee. This wage is what the CSA will use to calculate maintenance. He has decided to pay himself £120 per week as a salary, giving me £5 per week from him! Oddly enough the personal tax allowance. That is his only income and I am expected to believe he lives on this. This seems like absolute rubbish to me and is not consistent.
Does anyone have any advice about this, it seems slighty different to being self-employed. I could actually see him building up money in the business bank account which is obviously the profit of the company that he owns, and therefore his money from working, and yet somehow this appears to have nothing to do with what he should contribute towards his children.
I had been receiving £100 per week when he was employed by someone else so this is a huge decrease.
Any thoughts please?
hi my ex is taking me to court over access which he wants to have as and when he wants. asked him to confirm that he will see the kinds 12 and 10 every first saturday of the month but hes refused. and as i work weekend went to work. text me at 11am and said was on his way to see the kinds. unfortunately the kinds were at my friends so he went back called me all sort of names and is now threatening me that i did not avail the kinds to him when he comeand has had his lawyer write to me ....
I stumbled onto this post and thought I should respond, as a father I too pay towards my children and I co-parent. The problem is my ex wife constantly denied contact so she could squeeze more money from me through the CSA, this cost me a small fortune in court but in the end I got a final court order for regular contact 3 times a week plus half of all holidays.
This issue is some dads feel they are being unreasonably treated so like me and they give up their career start their own businesses as they like me are at the end of their tether.
The CSA are a very out moded and completely biased organisation who do not care less about dads and take the resident mums word irrespective if they are telling porkies about contact etc.
I don't blame dads who go down this route because sometimes it's not their fault.
I realise that there are dads who don't contribute to their children and I have no sympathy for them but the system is wrong as even dads who have equal contact and share the same income as their ex's why should they pay ? Seems very unfair and what about dads who are denied contact so they have to pay more CSA? It's a poor unfair system that drives people like me to go down the limited company route and greed is not always good.
Variation form has sections for this, but you have to provide evidence to support your assertions. And then once you've returned it all to the CSA, they then send it on to him to respond to.
I wouldn't get into telephone conversations with the CSA. Everyone tells you something different and the cost of the calls is massive. I just write in Recorded Delivery and say I want a response in writing. You then also have a record of what's going on.
It's important for children to see fathers who have a loving relationship and who are good men, who show love and nurture, who are proud and would hate to think of their child living in a financial condition where they maybe couldn't go on school trip due to lack of funds as the mom is 100% responsible for the expensive job of raising a child. Both parents should financially contribute to the upbringing of a child.
Food is expensive, school uniforms, school trips, providing heating and electricity for a child and a roof over their heads, missing time from work due to doc/hospital appointments and sickness has an impact on earnings. A responsible father would contribute towards the cost of raising their child, not delight in not paying a penny. Shame on you!!!
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My ex hubby was paying me £350pm then after only 11months & missed payments (as he went on holiday abroad)!! I told the csa to check his passport as each payment that was missed he was on holiday.....the cheek!! Then the smart arse made a new family & proceeded to laugh in my face about how he now pays himself in dividends and had his accountant "sort his books" so I was left with an amazing offer of £1.77pw for 2 children!! So I told the csa to shove it up their arses.So he private rents,new family,director of a company 3 holidays abroad each yr and I'm 5yrs with not a penny and one child is disabled! So until csa sort themselves out I won't bother,funny how if you're a lone parent you get grief off benefits about why you dnt claim csa,well maybe if more was done regarding these vile men we wouldn't have to claim so much government money to help us provide for our kids!! The way of the world:single no money with kids,government don't dig deep enough to sort these liars so we can support our kids.Beyond a joke!
If he's a director of the company he will have to complete a tax return. So ask the CSA to assess on that which should show all his income (including dividends, company car and other 'benefits' which are considered salary).
Of course he may choose not to pay dividends on a particular year and hide other income and get that lower Tax Return assessed. Plus he may delay having his TR completed and submitted to hold things up or make the CSA assess on previous year's income.
You will have to push very hard to get an accurate or even half decent amount I would think. So all depends how hard you are prepared to fight and how much time you want to spend on phone to CSA complaining!
Oh and yes K8y I know what you mean about 'I hate him' lol.
I'm tempted to tell he needs to but some clothes and shoes for them to wear when they go to his, as the shoes and coats always come back filthy and I can't afford to keep washing everything over and over! And as for the shoes he clearly never thinks about perhaps putting wellies on when walking in the mud (He has bought wellies for them at his house). In the past the children have come back with ruined sandals, broken zips on cardigans and a broken toy that they took with them.
I remember when he told me ages ago that he paid his contribution through the CSA for the childrens' clothes activities etc so he wouldn't pay anything else, well £2.50 per week per child, ooh let me see they can have half a swimming lesson each!
Its rubbish isn't it, I know he has savings that he might be using to live off, his dad has given him money in the past and he will inherit it anyway, but the CSA told me that unless he has £65k then they ignore it! And yet if you have over £16k as a lone parent you don't get any help with anything, how is that fair, surely it should be the same. How can someone who has £64000 in the bank only be expected to pay £5 per week to support his children - outrageous! He probably hasn't got that much but hopefully you get my point.
Sorry to hear about this. My ex used to have a really well paid job and gave us 350 a week, then lost it and decided to 'find himself' and is doing a full-time art degree so pays nothing. Which the law supports. He got a loan for his degree and works cash-in-hand jobs and gives me NOTHING towards our two children, even when I have asked for help with school uniform or school trips/dinners. I hate him!
Also, he has a rich gf and they spent 2 weeks in France in Summer. Arghhh! (I work every day and we struggle but I cope!)
Ok thanks, it is the stress of it that really get to you as everyone had said!
evolucy - On the grounds of CSA mishandling (massive understatement) of my case. It wasn't much though.
elasta - if it saves you the extra stress then its worth it.
What I did was send a copy of all correspondence (which was about 4 letters) to my MP along with a covering letter, and same to the CSA
Once that happened they pulled their fingers out, so it's definitely worth it.
MP sounds an interesting option. I an going to use the solicitor who did my divorce settlement to sort them all out. It will cost me but I cant stand the extra stress atm of doing it myself as my mum is terminally ill and I am trying to spend as much time as I can with her
Really...can I ask on what grounds you received compensation?
Definitely get your MP involved. Did you know they have a department exclusively to deal with queries/complaints from MPs? Says it all I think.
Things moved very fast once I wrote to mine and I was given compensation.
Yes Janos my MP was the next step too, elastamum, it seems that it depends on who your CSA caseworker is and how bothered they are about it, maybe thats unfair they must be very busy, but the lady I spoke to today couldn't get off the phone fast enough and kept saying the variation forms were in the post first class over and over. I was actually told that if I had any payslips showing dividends that he may pay himself I should provide them!! No let me see, he thinks £5 a week is a good financial contribution for 2 children, and so he thought he'd give me some copies of his payslips that he hasn't given to the CSA?! ludicrous!
I didn't get as far as that evolucy.
Essentially had to get my MP involved as CSA ignored my letters/complaints.
I found it incredibly frustrating as I'm sure you do too.
It's very sad the lengths some men will got to, to avoid supporting their children.
elasta - that's interesting to know.
hello I've jsut been through all of this - ex 'self employed' so declared his £148p/w to CSA (£10.70 awarded to me p/w), in same job, was on £70k when we were together...in the interim has new BMW, football season ticket, gym membership etc, I had to apply for a variation. It's appalling and the CSA are hopeless. I had a few months of major stress, but thank god we have gone to mediational and a full financial disclosure has to be made. So back to paying as per his net salary.
Its so infurating, and unfair, after all 15% of net salary is not a lot...
SOrry I can't be of any help, it seems to be very common, and I think the CSA need to address this issue immediately.
the CSA will look at his business turnover if it is a wholly owned company and is very different from his tiny wages. They have started to wise up to people paying themselves peanuts to avoid supporting their children. Not sure what you can do re accessing his business accounts. dont have much experience of all this but have just enganged a solicitor to act on my behalf so am learning fast!
elastamum, yes I spoke to my parents' accountant today who said that yes in reality it will probably be around 2 years before he has any accounts to see. Will the CSA use the same formula then turnover minus expenses as his income even if this is different to his wage from the company? Presumably this could be seen from the business bank account?
Janos, I am going through the process of requesting a variation if that what you have done?
Yes, I have direct experience of this evolucy - I have had limited success getting maintenance via the CSA. It's immensely frustrating isn't it?
Please feel free to IM me if you have any questions
I have also looked into this one.
This is a real problem and the CSA have recognised that frequently self employed fathers hide their earnings behind limited companies and pay dividends not salary. You may need to push the CSA to get anywhere on this as they probably wont persue it themselves as it is difficult and time consuming.
As far as I have read if it is a wholly owned limited company then the CSA will assume that the turnover of the company minus reasonable expenses is the income of the owner. BUT you will need copies of the accounts of the company to prove what your ex makes. The CSA can obtain these, but only if they are filed and he probably wont have to make a statutory return for 18 months. The CSA can force him to provide details of the business and also dividends and will take them into account but it isnt an easy ride to get anywhre on this one.
If you have a consent order in place you can use the legal route to force disclosure, but it will be costly and time consuming.
It brings me back to the old question of why do some men think its clever to do this and effectively walk away from financially providing for their children. When we were together he said he wanted to start his own business but would not do it when he had a family to support!! So now presumably he does not think that he has anyone to support!
I will not let this lie...he has been warned
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