I am wondering if any of you have words of wisdom or comfort related to this. I've just told my sister that my family is moving abroad again, after a year back in my home country (US). We had been hoping to stay in my home country permanently but have found the transition very difficult, the cost of living too expensive, and the job prospects for both DH and myself much less attractive than we'd hoped. Needless to say the decision to leave again has been an agonizing one for me, particularly since I have an aging mother who is here and was so thrilled we were moving back, and 2 kids who now won't get to see much of their cousin or grandmother. We would be moving back to the UK so would not be halfway round the world, but a 7 hour plane flight away, which is of course not close.
My sister, when I told her, accused me of not loving her and my mom enough to stay, said we were only leaving because of the money, and expressed a huge amount of bitterness over the fact that she would now be left to deal with my mom's demands and age-related illnesses with no help from me. Her view is that nothing "at home" is good enough for me or DH. How can I answer this? Am I ever going to stop feeling absolutely crap about making this decision? I love her and my mom very much, of course, and I feel extremely sad about not being able to see them more often if we move away. But we have not been that close and they have done very little to assist us with our obvious struggles since we've been here (though apparently that is only my view, since her view is they've offered lots and lots of help - somehow DH and I missed that?!). I guess I'm just wondering if any of you have faced this kind of violently critical and bitter reaction to your decision to move overseas or remain overseas, and were you and your family ever able to get past it?
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MizZan · 12/06/2008 13:27
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