The uncertainty

(9 Posts)
SharingMichelle Mon 05-Sep-16 05:41:41

We've been in the ME for 8 years. Dh is getting his notice today so I guess we're on the move again. So much uncertainty, so much to think about. We've been expecting it for a while but it was still a shock when it came. I felt sick and a bit dizzy, isn't that silly.

We'll need to organise the animals and get them travel ready. God, I'll have to tell ds his hamsters can't come with us. He'll be heartbroken.

10 yr old dd won't be finishing the last year of primary with her friends... she won't be going on the seniors camping trip she's been looking forward to for years.

We'll have to tell our helper she's out of a job. She'll struggle to get another one in this climate.

And poor dh has the task of finding another job somewhere in the world that can support all of us.

It all seems enormous and I want to hide under a rock. God I hate this bit of this life. And somehow no one to talk to in real life about it. Am feeling rather alone.

ccgirr Mon 05-Sep-16 05:46:27

Hi
We've done six years and facing the same. Guinea pigs instead of hamsters are dd's biggest concern. I can hardly sleep for worrying but we've done it once and will survive again.
We told helper we'd pay til end of year to lesson the blow.
Dh wants to organise party and I just want to hide confused

ccgirr Mon 05-Sep-16 05:47:00

Sorry not sure that helps much but you are not alone!

SharingMichelle Mon 05-Sep-16 05:52:05

Thanks CC. It's hard isn't it.

I know we'll get there. At least I hope we will - so much depends on dh finding another job. We'll survive, but it's hard.

ccgirr Mon 05-Sep-16 05:55:47

Yes we were supposed to hear Friday about a job and they rang and said today. I find it hard not to put a lot of pressure on dh with constant questions has he done this, heard from this etc. hopefully today might bring good news...

SharingMichelle Mon 05-Sep-16 06:09:29

Fingers crossed for you. Have you got a preference for where you go next? Or are you planning to move home?

ccgirr Mon 05-Sep-16 19:03:05

Thanks Michelle. We are going home. Still didn't hear anything on job but did get hold of school and they have space for us! We are going back to where my parents are which is a bit daunting, not lived there in 20 years hmm

StMary Sun 11-Sep-16 20:09:13

We are on the verge of accepting a job abroad so have similar stresses - my DD1 starts reception tomorrow and I'm freaking out about disrupting her education/life (we'd move at Xmas) and changing all the things she's looking forward to. It's a local/perm offer so no idea how long we'd go for. A couple of years feels not really worth the upheaval, a few more and I'll worry about the disruption again and permanent is too daunting to think about.

But it's an adventure and an opportunity...

Good luck op, hope you get a clear way forward ASAP. The unknown would do my head in too. Where are you hoping to go next?

JamieVardysParty Wed 14-Sep-16 19:02:11

Joining the club. DH has been told that his contract finishes in December so looks like we'll be homeless at Christmas. His site manager has made life miserable for him so in a way it's a blessing but as everyone else is staying on until Mar-Jun so does feel like the boss is sticking the knife in again.

No kids, but we do have two cats. My visa runs out in Jan, DH has applied for another job here but I'm not going through the visa process again, so I will probably have to stay and work in the UK and visit every now and again.

Ideally he will hear about another job in Australia. We're also waiting on some government decision about potential work in the UK, although that won't start for him for a couple of years.

God it's just so stressful not knowing what to do for the best. Looks like we're going to have to be apart for most of next year (which also means me being apart from my babies sad).

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