Hi all. Some of you might remember me from my big crisis earlier this year when my husband was offered a job in NY and I was agonising over whether to go. Well, I didn't and he did, and now the marriage is on the skids. And I need to clarify something about all the good advice I received last time.
A split in the offing, but a little bit of me wants to consider trying a year out there, so that I have tried everything and can walk away knowing that. We could stash some money on the wage he is on, which we could really do with if we split and have to run two homes instead of one.
However, is it right that if I were to try a year out there, once we pass the 6-month point he can stop me returning to the UK with the kids, and lock me into living there permanently, or abandoning them? Is it really as short as 6 months before that happens?
If so I can't possibly take that risk, however much he assures me he would never do that, and however I really don't think he would. That means trying a year there, in order to have tried everything to make the marriage work, is not an option, and I can stop considering it.
Any advice gratefully received from anyone who knows this stuff for sure. Thanks in advance!
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CookieTramp · 25/11/2014 22:47
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