Has your heart or head decided where the best place to be is?
In my situation, my head is saying stay and my heart is saying go (home). I have written list after list comparing countries with every conceivable pro and con I can think of. The practicality of staying here always wins through on paper BUT I can't seem to accept that this would be it for me. It really makes no practical sense to move back home but emotionally I can't be at peace with that. I know some on here have returned home, has it been a purely emotional decision or just more practical or both?
I think as a migrant it depends why you moved. I often think screw it we will go back to the uk.. Friends.. Family all nearby. But our kids are Aussies now. They live outdoors. Play sports.. We live under an hour to the Cbd but 10 mins to white beaches. On acreage. So no. My heart often flits to the uk.. But my brain will always win
Education won for us, and education could stop us following our hearts and our heads elsewhere.
I think it also depends on what/who you have in the UK. That's so much of the "heart" of it isn't it? And you say you think about family and friends back home. We aren't close to family and having moved to a different area we're not close to old friends either. Other friends are scattered around the globe anyway.
Such a tough one. I think if it's really compelling finance wise you can tough it out if it's going be life changing and then return home if that's where you see yourselves growing old.
I think it's a balance - as kids grow the 'foreign' country becomes their home and that has to be a factor. I know people who relocated 'home' when their kids ranged from 8-14 and the older the kids the more problems (with some kids ultimately going back to the 'foreign' country to study or as young adults post-uni).
I also have adult friends (mostly diplo brats or oil&gas kids) who feel they have no 'home' which can be both a positive and a negative. I also have friends now raising their own families in the foreign service or oil&gas sectors (many of the couples are bi-nationality, which adds to the mix).
Home for me is Ireland. Home for my kids will be America (dh is American, both kids were born in London, we moved here two years ago this Sept). I love to visit home, my (now elderly) mum and most of my siblings are there and I daydream about living there/retiring there. But then I remember I left 20 years ago this summer (as a teen, not expecting to never live there properly again) and living there is very different from my imaginings. And realistically my home is where my family - of DH and DC - is.