I've posted about my situation on other thread here so sorry for repetition, but I would be really grateful for support/advice. Moved out with Australian DH last year - he left a good job in London (I was on mat leave, now on unpaid leave so still have foot in the door), I left friends and family. We didn't own a house, because DH refused to buy one in the UK as he didn't want to stay. I really didn't want to go but it was always part of the 'deal' that we would go out one day. Found it very difficult to leave family in particular a my parents are elderly and my sister is out here too. But DH was unhappy in London and promised we would have a better life out here (one of the main motivators for me is tht we could finally settle, buy a house etc). We moved to Melboune with a 2 yr old and a 3 month old, stayed in his parent's property which they are waiting to renovate (ie needs serious, serious work), I came o terms with the fact we were permanently settled and went to baby groups, made friends, generally tried really hard. I got a job a couple of months ago.
It's been nearly a year and DH still hasn't got a job, despite looking at all areas, in Sydney as well as Melbourne etc etc. We've agree to discuss the situation this w/e an decide what to do.
I think a year is more than enough time to expect to be sorted and it just hasn't worked out for us. I think we should go back to the UK (the very thought of this makes me feel so happy as I'd resigned myself to being over here for ever). I know DH will argue that we should give it more time, as once he gets a job everything will fall into place (by contrast, if we went back we'd need to find somewhere to rent, he might not get a job there either, we'd need to find new nurseries for the children etc).
Aside from the emotional arguments (which after all balance each other out - he's unhappy there, I'm unhappy here but had resigned myself to cope with it if other things had works out) what would be the sensible way forwar from here? I'm confused and don't have any friends I can talk about this with here.
Thank you.
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CloudWallaby · 04/04/2014 22:08
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