We had a talk about moving back home.(67 Posts)
Well, as some of you may know, I've been miserable here in Oz the entire time since we came over. It was my h's decision to move over and I feel there was a lot of pressure on me to move even though I wasn't unhappy.
A lot of decisions have been made for me, and it's made me a very bitter and angry person. I'm so miserable here, and have told him this several times. It has in the past fallen on deaf ears.
Today, I had to again ask to see the rental accounts for our house back in the Uk, as this is making over £700 profit each month, and I haven't seen a penny in the 20 months we've been here
So, I got to see them, and apparently we've also been getting dividends on the shares he
secretly has and hasn't told me. That's another thread. I could only see the last few months accounts, but am still dubious as to what he's done with the money.
I mentioned to him, that he needed to show me the accounts more than twice in 20 months as the house is ours, not his, as it was pre engagement and me selling my house at a massive profit is to why we now have a tiny mortgage. I then mentioned that it wasn't financially viable to be here, as the one wage he's on is not enough, and me working in my profession doesn't pay very well here, and that gets soaked up in childcare fees.
We never have any money, and seem really poor to what we had in the Uk. He's not had a pay rise since we've been here either. Going out for dinner is a major treat now, as before we'd go out weekly.
I didn't like his comment, as he said that I hadn't given it a chance. It's been nearly two years, and I think that's long enough being miserable. It has effected our marriage, and my gp suggested counseling. I said I've achieved the grand sum of chuff all being here, and I have tried to go out and meet people, through groups taking dd's to swimming, gymnastics, and don't ask about the playgroup <shudders>
I currently have a broken leg, and have had surgery on it. It has been dreadful, and very stressful for all of us, as we not have sil to help at weekends, and occasionally a friend miles away can have our girls for a day whilst dh goes to work. It's been awful, and has highlighted how much I really miss the Uk and all the support we had there.
The resentment towards my h is incredible. I'm so angry with him, and I'm someone who is told I'm always happy, and in a good mood.
He did query how we'd pay for a container, but I really don't care how. I want to go back home and get some work, see my family, my friends, and stop paying ridiculous amounts in rent, and healthcare.
Sorry, that was epic, but he's finally acknowledged that I want to go home. It's taken long enough.
Thank you Echt
I nearly fell on the floor when he told me.
Sorry Mos, it seems my life can be quite jammy at times lol.
Nah I'm pleased for you, although ivdobthinkn we should try and squeeze in a glass of wine before you go
Well, dh is now on 'gardening leave' and they took his laptop off him , but dh had to grapple the mobile off them as it has contacts in them he needs, and he needs it to find a job.
The HR guy hasn't a clue what he's doing as he's a junior. So he's home til they find him something
yeah, right and he still has the company car, so that's something.
I now have an assistant to help me with selling all the baby stuff, and need to look at selling my car and several bits of furniture. He wants to keep the fridge, but fuck knows where that's gonna go in our house in the Uk, as we don't have the room in our kitchen.
If anyone has anymore ideas of how to sell stuff, I'm doing Gumtree and car boot, then I'd appreciate it
How big is your fridge? I might take it off your hands, it's no good shipping electrical stuff back, always blows within months off being plugged into the English circuits I'm told.
I'm resigned - excuse the pun to being stuck here til Christmas, in saving like made and was working out what my tax refund will be :-) I cannot wait to get on that bloody plane !!!!
I can't wait to get on that plane either.
I'm getting him to try and give it up, but think we'll need it til last minute. It's a side by side American type fridge. It fucking huge
like everything else here
After talking more, I'm really cross with the way they've dealt with dh. Really quite aggressive. We're hoping to go on this Thai holiday, as we really need it after me breaking my leg too.
I think I'm doing a swap meet in Karrinyup on Sunday now, to sell all this baby stuff. My sil should be there with me selling her stuff.
Been lurking on this thread for a while and feel slightly like a stalker, but I'm really happy for you! [waves little union jack]
Yay! I am so pleased for you Long, I really think we should have a meetup for all the expats when they finally get home.
On the logistics side, if they will pay for your shipping that is great, they don't need to do this under the 457 legislation, so I would get that in writing as soon as you can.
especially if the hr guy is out of his depth
Are they being odd about the flights back after you get back from Thailand?
Anything I can do to help please holler. Dh is still in Perth and quite useful so if you need help with shifting stuff just let me know.
<still doing a little dance of excitement for you>
p.s Mosman, I know when the whole Lafha malarkey kicked off there were some people in NSW saying that it cost less to privately ed their children than pay the state cost...
p.s. were you a project managery type person or am I imagining that? Dh's company are apparently recruiting
oh the irony as they have just made loads of people redundant
I am indeedy and very interested I currently work with a bunch of clowns.
I've looked into private education and there's very little choice or spaces, which sums Perth up in a nutshell for me.
Thanks thecraicdealer Stalk away and join in
Scone they knew about dh's holiday, and they're being quite good considering they took his laptop, and have now switched off his phone
He spoke to them earlier, and they're contacting the container company to contact us. They paid for a container out here, and flights. The guy has also said they were giving redundancy from time spent with the company in the Uk.
Thanks for the offer of help. Think we'll just leave it to the container company, seen as they're paying.
Mos it's an utter bitch that they're charging for schools on a 457. It's all about the money here. They'll be charging for oxygen next
I won't be paying it I figure what will they do ? They currently send me snotty letter about the "voluntary" contribution and I don't pay that either.
At the end of the day my eldest spends 80% of her time sat in the corner if the classroom reading whilst being ignored, middle one only goes for the social life and little girl is still being given sheets to colour in, in the top five school in the state - in year 4. I honestly think if I left them at home with their iPads it couldn't be any worse.
No doubt then ill get fined for non attendance
Crappola! The container people are coming Friday morning, and I think they'll au up how much it'll cost etc for his company.
Eek, it's happening so fast!!
Mosman, I have pm'ed you.
long, we shipped back a lot more than we brought out - about 18 cubic metres and I think it was about $5000...
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