OH has brought it up yet again, and I need opinions.
OH is from Slovakia, but has lived in the UK for about 14 years. We have a DD who is almost 2. A few months ago we bought our first house, and I hoped that OH would finally be happy, as he hasn't been satisfied with his life in the UK since I met him 9 years ago. A couple of weeks after we moved in, he was told he needed a heart op due to a genetic factor we knew nothing about. Since then, he has understandably altered his views on life and feels it's too short to be in a country he's not happy in, and he is also concerned he won't be able to stay in his job. He is even more miserable than usual with his life, stating that he has no friends, not much time with DD or me, stressed, and we don't get much help from my family despite having moved closer, so we don't get any time together as a couple. This is particularly bad as our relationship suffered after DD arrived and we don't have the opportunity to discuss issues as they come up, and he's not very good at handling issues anyway.
So he's asking me to consider selling up and moving to his home town in Slovakia, where his family is willing to help out and give us time to ourselves, and he would get a job in his sector with fairly good pay as he can speak English well. We would get a new mortgage for an apartment, and I would teach English as I have a teaching qualification.
I like his home town, it is a main town not a village so I wouldn't feel too cut off, but I don't speak much Slovak, and I find the way things work over there quite infuriating at times. His family is also quite overbearing. There are more pros than cons for DD and OH, but more cons than pros for me. It's a good place for DD to grow up, as the air is clean and there are lovely mountains and countryside, kids have a more innocent childhood there and it is child orientated, the pace of life is slower and education and healthcare is fine. But I'm well aware of the sacrifices I would make, such as being further from my family and not having much money to visit them etc.
I think I want to get it over with so we can both see if it really would be the solution OH thinks it would be, as I've tried to avoid it for so long. But I was just settling into our lovely neighbourhood and had such high hopes here.
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Squeakyswing · 21/03/2013 16:44
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