Relatives here for extended stay...

(7 Posts)
378 Wed 09-Jan-13 06:36:10

It is lovely to have them and I miss them hugely when they are not here. Any tips to stop us getting snippy with each other as is easy to do when in close quarters for weeks with those you know very well smile

complexnumber Wed 09-Jan-13 07:02:36

You have acknowledged that it may not be blue skies and sunshine in your household while they are staying, that seems extremely important to me.

Can you expect your relatives to do the same? If so, you are half way there, imo.

378 Wed 09-Jan-13 08:48:48

well I confess my innermost thoughts are nit quite as reasonable as my OP suggests!

Nancy54 Wed 09-Jan-13 08:55:34

I find its good to spend some time apart, do do everything together. Get them to go out on their own sometimes and you babysit their kids if they have some and they can do the same for you.

Share the cooking and shopping.

Suggest things that they can do and see that you have already done ans seen so you have a good excuse not to go along with them. l

LarkinSky Wed 09-Jan-13 09:12:32

Get on with your regular routine as much as possible. Don't put normal life/socialising on hold while they're with you.

Obviously you will probably be planning some special activities for them but also take them with you as you go about your normal day-to-day stuff, from school run, playgroups, kids' parties, BBQ at friends' to shopping, cleaning & errands etc.

I think of such extended stays for close family to gain a real understanding of how we live as a normal family; a window into our world if you like. They like meeting our friends, learning about the expat 'scene'. This helps us all feel closer to each other especially when our relationship is usually conducted over skype.

And hire them their own car!

LarkinSky Wed 09-Jan-13 09:15:20

Very best is for guests to take a mini trip without you during the stay. It breaks it up nicely and helps combat those innermost thoughts. One set of GP do this for about 3 nights, and take DD1 with them - bonus!

complexnumber Wed 09-Jan-13 16:12:05

"well I confess my innermost thoughts are nit quite as reasonable as my OP suggests!"

Ah ha! I thought you sounded far too reasonable and happy to have folk coming over. smile TBH I would be dreading it from the moment it was agreed upon.

LarkinSky has very wise words.

I would also make sure I had a secret store of gin along with a part of the house that is yours and needs a knock before anyone can come in.

If your house is big enough then maybe your relatives could have a similar private place. (they will probally find a their own place to hide their gin).

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