Thought I'd start this thread in case someone like myself is looking for such a place. Seems to be tucked far into a corner though, so I'd be surprised if many checked in.
I'm a 33 year old English woman living with her Swedish boyfriend near Avesta. I discovered him online whilst playing a mmorpg in November 2010 and we have an 8 month old daughter.
I don't really like Sweden, if I'm honest. I miss the friendliness of Brits, the cheaper prices and much wider variety of products plus the more frequent and flexible availability of things such as transport and I really resent having to pay for my healthcare when it's for something I have little control over.
I was dreading the weather when I moved here, but it's not so bad. Sure, you get a lot of snow and it can slow things down, but it's a lot drier here so doesn't feel as cold as it is.
I miss my family very much, and I hate that they aren't getting to see my baby grow up, but I do like my boyfriends family a lot and I'm glad that we are living close to them, so that's something at least.
I was also with a midwife connected to Bb Stockholm. But if they're full, they're full!
I know what you mean about swaddling. In Australia, it's recommended to help stop tinies from waking themselves with their startle reflex. In Sweden most seem to think it's torture. What happened to "lagom"? We wrapped DS up tight for the first few weeks.
Boomerwang, I saw your other thread briefly about having a shit time at mammagrupp. Then before I could read it fully and reply, I had to go take care of the DDs. When I got a moment, it had disappeared from active convos. How are you doing? What happened?
I feel better now that I've had a chance to talk it out on here and to know that I am not the only one who has had an awkward time adjusting to a new situation involving that elite club 'parents'. For my child's sake, I will try again either at the same place or a new one, but I'm going to take someone with me who can bridge the gap in the languages at least at first.
Where did you post your other thread? Couldn't find it earlier... I hated öppnaförskolan. Grim behaviour and cliquey parents. The two ladies who ran it were lovely though and always made DD1 feel special
Why Stockholm? For me it was a combination of that's where the work is for me and DH, and not being willing to move to the back of beyond. DH lived in Östersund when we met, and I was a LOT less willing to move there than to Stockholm. Thankfully he was ready for a change too and got a job here, so we moved to Stockholm together, me from o/s, him from Östersund.
Nothing against Östersund, I'm sure it has it's advantages, but I come from a bigger city, have a tough enough time with the cold and dark at this latitude, and wanted to be somewhere with an expat community I could integrate with if I needed to.
Can you afford the odd long weekend in the big city? Come down with DH and DD and arrange a meetup with some of the english mums or us MNers who are here? Then you'd have someone you have met to moan with via email etc. Always good to have someone to vent with.
DH is from Gothenburg and we have his family (for what little good they are!), his friends etc. Plus he was able to get work here in his area of expertise. As previously said, I have been happier since we moved to a small town on the outside of a bigger city. I hated Gothenburg itself and enjoy the familiarity of a small town.