Living in Japan

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mirai Fri 20-May-11 10:42:24

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TanteRose Tue 18-Jun-13 06:08:09

How are you feeling, BadLad? full of vim and vigour, after a rub-down from your Ma-in-Law? grin

I like the incense burners outside shrines, where you are supposed to waft the smoke over the part of your body which you want to cure.

I only have a FIL (MIL died 14 years ago). He is 94 and fought in China.
He is very practical and pragmatic, but as the eldest son of his clan, he gives loads of money to the temple where his (our?) family grave is. He then says he has no money, and walks everywhere (he does use his free bus pass, but never gets taxis).

He is VERY healthy!

mirai Tue 18-Jun-13 06:10:00

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TanteRose Tue 18-Jun-13 06:10:04

sorry, what I was trying to say, is that he would have no truck with "fortune tellers".

My DH is the same - he never pays for a 100 yen lucky fortune at New Years or anything like that.

TanteRose Tue 18-Jun-13 06:10:34

mirai - cross post grin !!

TanteRose Tue 18-Jun-13 06:11:46

I know - the weather is weird

we are due for another typhoon tomorrow confused

very humid here today

mirai Tue 18-Jun-13 07:24:42

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violetpie Tue 18-Jun-13 22:12:33

Hi Mirai - yes, still here. Not heard back yet. The recruiter has chased them up, but it's an especially busy time of year for DH's industry so it's delayed things a bit. We should hear their salary figure soon though - anybody want to place bets as to how wide the chasm between our figure and what they have in mind is? grin

mirai Wed 19-Jun-13 06:27:07

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violetpie Thu 20-Jun-13 12:01:38

Spot on mirai grin. Just heard back - we'll have to see if we could manage on their figure. We provided quite a cautious figure so I'm not sure if their's is do-able. Also DH has just been given a pay rise where he is so the figure the Japanese company have suggested is up to £15000 lower than his UK salary. Will have to have a good think about it.

BadLad Sun 23-Jun-13 08:35:58

My health is fine, thank you all for asking, although I'm sorry to say that the charm doesn't seem to cure hangovers.

Nice bright weekend here, and I will escape to the UK for some of July and August. No humidity, sun until 10pm ish - bliss.

Anyone else going back this summer?

mirai Mon 08-Jul-13 06:27:24

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mirai Tue 09-Jul-13 02:28:35

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mirai Tue 09-Jul-13 02:30:21

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BadLad Tue 09-Jul-13 02:34:53

That is bizarre if they are Japanese. Usually it's the other way round - a Japanese person says something along the lines of "come round some time" for the sake of being polite and is later surprised when the foreigner turns up on their doorstep having taken it literally.

Are your sure your partner hasn't issued an invitation to them?

If not, then you'll have to handle it as you would in the UK. Something like "we haven't any definite plans to hold a barbeque at the moment, but we'll let you know if and when we do".

If they're insistent on seeing your house, they're probably nosey about what foreign touches you have in your home, and to what extent you do Japanese things at home. Many Japanese people are fascinated by foreign couples and mixed marriages (I assume from your first post, your partner isn't Japanese).

Meanwhile, you could always go out to an izakaya and karaoke, to show them that it isn't anything personal, although if you do the latter, you might have to suffer endless enka songs if they are 50ish or older.

BadLad Tue 09-Jul-13 02:36:24

And that is hellishly expensive for plane tickets. Mine cost 100,000, leaving next week. The downside is not going direct.

Anyway, hope the above post helps.

mirai Wed 10-Jul-13 05:03:55

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mirai Wed 17-Jul-13 01:07:15

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BadLad Wed 17-Jul-13 04:28:27

There is no middle ground regarding discipline of children in Japan. It either takes the form of beating the shit out of them, or pleading with them to stop doing whatever it is they're doing wrong.

Not always, but I have seen both extremes far too often.

apibeeman Thu 25-Jul-13 08:58:35

I spent two years there and loved every minute. The food, takes a bit of getting used to but very soon get to love it. Work was fantastic, everybody so nice and polite.
Just don't mention the war, can easily get into something you wish you had never started. Take your Kindle with you or better still buy one out there, all the electronic things are much cheaper and more up to date out there, if you are not going to be working make sure you have plenty to do, there are lots of nice places to visit. Wish I was going back.

ForgetfulNameChanger Thu 25-Jul-13 21:00:37

Hi everyone! I posted this in chat but was advised that posting here might be a good idea too! smile

I lived in Japan for four months a couple of years back and came home for Christmas with the plan to return in the new year but I got ill and couldn't go back. At the time my mind wasn't on Japan or any of my obligations I'd left there so I never chased up any loose ends. I just realised the other day that I had a 12 month phone contract for a mobile and obviously, the phone stayed with me in the UK and I didn't pay for the last eight months. Does this mean I have an outstanding debt over there? Will this affect any holidays or opportunities of living there in the future? Will I be banned from Japan? How can I fix it?

Thanks smile

mirai Fri 26-Jul-13 12:43:44

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ForgetfulNameChanger Fri 26-Jul-13 15:11:20

Hi mirai!

Oh dear, that two year contract does ring a bell! I vaguely remember us all discussing how we would pay off the final year of it if we had returned to the UK. Oh no sad

I think we were with Softbank. I don't have the money to pay them back at the moment but want to because its a horrible feeling having this potential mystery debt hanging over me abroad haha! Thank you for the advice, I didn't think about actually contacting them doh! I will look into whether they have an English line and see if I can speak to someone. If its only Japanese, I'm buggered for now as I can only remember the basics eek!

Hopefully if I get it sorted I won't be banned or blacklisted in someway. I would love to take dd there when she is older so will be gutted if my bad memory has fudged that sad thank you for offering to do research for me smile that's really kind. Hope you are enjoying your hols!

mirai Sat 27-Jul-13 04:45:46

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mirai Sat 27-Jul-13 04:47:16

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BadLad Wed 31-Jul-13 16:02:11

I don't know if/how any information about unpaid bills is passed to the authorities here

For mobile phones, it isn't (touches wood).

When I finished with docomo, they sent me a final bill, which I paid, although it was unusually low. Then a couple of months later, they sent a new bill for the difference, which I paid reluctantly.

Then they sent me a bill for late payment, on the grounds that I was two months late settling my bill

And about five reminders when I ignored the late payment demand.

Two years on, they seem to have given up.

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