I have a dear very eccentric and weird if you don't love her ain't back home in Asia. Lifetime single, a battle axe very very fiery tempered. and enjoys doing all sorts of odd jobs for all and sundry. As in - paying bills for the disabled aunt of the neighbour's mother in law she has met but once in passing. Won't accept lifts or favours. Or pay rises. Exists ok frugality. Quite uhm unique. My dads sister. 65. Anorexic but these things don't get diagnosed there.
In 2013 she developed lumps on her neck with associated weight loss fever etc. Fast forward to now - confirmed hodgkins - she won't go for treatment. My dad who arguably has the most influence on her has tried his convincing best (and he is a fantastic convincer part of his job) - he has been shouted down. She will not treat it.
She is going about business as usual.
Her argument is she's seen folk with cancer get treated and die in 3 years after horrendous chemo. She's made it 3 years without treatment and even if she died right this instant she's made the right choice apparently.
She's very very touchy now. Has cut off contact with most family including most of her siblings and me as well. Very very on the edge.
I feel awful about it all especially as she's cut me off and that's unthinkable. I will let my poor dad know this but I'm not entirely sure what he can do because if anyone tries to tell her anything she will rant at them and storm out to save neighbour's dog down the road.
So what do I do. Nobody can force her to get chemo. With that many lumps how is she even alive for going on 4 years now with untreated lymphoma?
My dad says he is devastated that he stands to lose his little sister but doesn't know what to do.
And about cutting People off. I feel awful. I've nerve had a birthday she didn't wish me but this that she won't because she hasn't for my DH as well. Complete silent treatment. Apparently other cousins and relatives have had the same experience. She won't rest. Won't stop working. Will go off on one if you suggest she slows down.
How is she even alive still? It's untreated cancer that's decorated her visibly with many lumps :(
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Life-limiting illness
Not treating lymphoma
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Houseconfusion · 28/09/2016 07:30
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