Dh was diagnosed with T4 bowel cancer earlier this year. It has spread to his nodules and metastasised to his stomach. In the operation to remove as much of the cancer as possible he had part of his stomach removed but according to the surgeon he got as much as the eye can see from the primary site but couldn't take as much as he hoped from the stomach as it had spread too much. The surgeon then explained that the cancer had burst through the bowel and the seeds of cancer had spread throughout his body and only time would tell where they would pop up. He was very factual that it was a case of when not if the cancer returned there wouldn't be anything that could be done.
Dh went for a ct scan which showed the cancer left on his stomach and was referred to our nearest cancer hospital.
I went with dh for the first appointment with the consultant. He looked at the scan and told dh that it was not cancer but scar tissue from the operation. Dh was relieved. I, whilst wanting to believe him was a bit😏.
His subsequent appointments have been with nurses but last week he asked to see the consultant as he had seen an article about a drug called Avastin that dh thought might help.
Dh came home from that appointment saying he was cured and he just needed to finish off the chemo course and everything would be great and if he found the cancer was still there or the cancer came back in the future then he would just take the Avastin and everything would be good.
Dh has as yet not had any sort of scan/test to see how things are progressing since his start of chemo. Also dh had critical illness insurance that was paid out. CI Insurance only get paid out if the patient is diagnosed as having less than 12 months to live.
Whilst I hope dh makes a recovery I feel very uneasy about his consultant telling him he is cured or at the least inferring everything will be ok without any sort of current scan.
Does anyone have any advice on this situation. Dh has told the Dc that daddy is cured and whilst yes he is feeling ok, not having any further scan/test to see what is going on leaves me feeling uneasy. Equally I am very nervous about this consultant diagnosing anything. Personally I believe a surgeon who has actually opened dh up and seen what is going on rather than a consultant who seems to want to go against all previous diagnosis.
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WendyWills12345 · 29/07/2016 13:56
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