My father in law is dying 
he has lung cancer that hasn't responded to chemo or radiotherapy and has spread to the bones in his back. He has been given only a few weeks (he hasn't been told this because he said he didn't want to know but he knows he isn't going to get better) and has came to live with us because he cannot cope on his own anymore.
I am his main carer and also have two children to look after while Dp works away.
I feel like I am coping with having him here but I am scared of what is going to happen in his final days, what happens if he dies and I am here on my own with him and the children? How do I make the arrangements without them being scared? Who do I ring? He has a DNR but do I still ring the ambulance?
I want to have him here so I can look after him and make his final days/weeks as comfortable as possible but I can't say I am comfortable with the thought of someone dying in my house (I hope that doesn't make me sound like a horrible person)
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Life-limiting illness
DFIL is dying
Keepittoyourself · 15/03/2016 18:41
No advice I am afraid but you sound lovely and this is a wonderful thing for you to do to care for someone this way 
Ask GP to get hospice at home involved. They came to my dad when he was terminally ill and were fab. They really took the strain of me as I'm a nurse and found it hard not be his carer and just his daughter. The nurses certified my dads death at home when he died and GP provided death certificate a couple of days later.
Hospice nurses are amazing. Or call Macmillan direct ( sorry don't have the number) and they will advise.
I'm sorry you're going through this and think you're wonderful to care for your FiL. 
What a lovely lovely thing you are doing for all of you.
Second the Hospice at Home comments, you can ask to be referred. Also, Marie Curie Nurses/Helpers can be brilliant. They come and sit with the family member, especially overnight. As it turned out, the first night they came was the night my lovely Dad died. The nurse took care of everything, all the arrangments that you mention, and looked after all of us. Perhaps you could speak to them to see what support they might be able to offer.
a little update:
FIL took a turn for the worse and was put onto a syringe driver as he couldn't take his medication. He was asleep all the time, his breathing was very slow and was crackling and bubbling. Everyone thought it was the end.
Somehow After a few days he started to improve a bit and was awake more each day but was complaining of a stomach ache and his stomach was very swollen. I requested that they put in a catheter because he had started drinking a little but wasn't passing and urine. The nurses did this and drained a huge amount.
turns out he had a UTI so he was prescribed antibiotics.
He was then taken off the syringe driver after making a drastic improvement. Over the last ten days he has been on three different types of antibiotics. He is in bed all the time has lost use of his arms and legs so we need to feed him (very small amounts) and give him drinks throughout the day (and night) he is unable to use the toilet so has a catheter and carers coming in three times a day to change him. He is such a proud man and it hurts to see his face every time the carers come and wash/change him.
It just feels like he is getting infection after infection and one day soon the antibiotics aren't going to work it feels as if we/the Drs are just prolonging the inevitable and taking away every last bit of his dignity. What sort of a life is he having just lying in the bed hour after hour waiting to die? He has asked me a few times to just give him 'the final injection/medicine' 
I meant not although I am angry with this stupid illness and cruel suffering it makes people go through
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