Hi everyone,
I just wondered if anyone could help please. My wonderful mother in law has been battling cancer for many years. She first had bowel cancer and had an operation to remove lots of her bowel, and a stoma fitted. 5 years after that she was diagnosed with cancer in her womb and had a hysterectomy. A year after that the cancer was back in her pelvis and lungs. And at the back end of last year it was confirmed as terminal and has also spread to her brain. Her wonderful husband died 3 years ago and we live 2 hours away so as you can probably imagine this has been a total nightmare for everyone involved.
Our problem now is her care. The hospice she was in doesn't allow people to stay for long periods so she has had to go home. She can't walk without a walker, can hardly breathe due to the numerous tumours in her lungs, and is asleep most of the day. She can't make herself food or drink so has carers, organised by the hospice, come in 3 times a day. We just dont think this is enough. She is crying on the phone saying she is frightened. Nobody comes in at night and she has no panic button in case of a fall. Even better is that the carers forgot her on Friday! So she had no lunch. She isn't drinking as she is frightened of getting to the toilet by herself. She has a chest drain to drain off infection that she is supposed to change herself too?
Does anybody have any good advice for us please? We are at our wits end. We recjon she should be in a home but she is terrified of the costs. Surely she shouldnt be alone and frightened? Thank you in advance. X
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Mum in law help please.
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katy1039 · 25/01/2015 22:02
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