Think I might be a lesbian

[MaybeAnOverthinker]

I am just starting to realise that I don't think I have ever actually fancied a man. Infact, I am sure I have never been sexually attracted to any man. Ever. I have always played along 'oh yes isn't he hot' etc but never felt anything. I can't understand what people at work mean when they appreciate the male form...it just does nothing for me even though I pretend it does.

If you fancy men, can you please describe to me how you know? What do you actually feel?

I am not sure if I am a lesbian or bisexual or just not met the right man.

[RiaOverTheRainbow]

If you're out of your teens and have never fancied a man, in real life or a celebrity, I think chances are you aren't straight. You don't say whether you've fancied a woman, if not you might want to read up on asexuality, see if it resonates.

[MaybeAnOverthinker]

Yes I fancy women. Growing up I thought I just admired them but it's
More than that. It's definitely a sexual attraction... I only ever fantasise about sex with women!

[RiaOverTheRainbow]

Well I obviously can't tell you your sexuality, but it does sound to me like you're probably gay

[DoctorTwo]

If you fancy women and only fantasise about sex with women and you are a woman then yes, you are more than likely gay. It's perfectly normal, honest.

[DakiniMum]

Hey, welcome to the wonderful world of lesbianism!

If you don't know any other gay women I would register on gaydar girls and go on a few dates. There are lots of other questioning women on there.

When you meet someone, kiss them... You will know.

Oh and I don't know if you are a parent or if it worries you re having kids but I am mum to 6 month old DD and know lots of other gay mums.

Enjoy! X

[JoMackl]

Lesbian single mum of a 1-year-old DD here! (gay male best friend sperm donor known as "Uncle Robert"). I only came out later in life (30s) but being honest about my feelings and exploring relationships with women was the best thing I ever did. xxx

[Mamapotter2008]

OP, I'm wondering the same about myself right now for exactly the same reason. Friend asks if I fancy some random celeb, it's clear everyone else does so "err, yes" I say.

Same friend tries on the underwear at an Ann Summers party and parades around in it, I don't know where to look. She then gets really drunk and lies with her head in my lap, sobbing about how badly her husband treats her, and 😳, nothing happens but I do find it hard not to give away how I feel.

I was with my husband for 15 years, and oddly it worked, but as soon as he showed his true colours and I started to loose my emotional attachment to him, I felt physically sick about what we did in the bedroom.

Found this site really interesting www.yoursexualorientation.info/#2893

Have zero experience of forming an emotional attachment to women, but I slept with a few at university. Fantasised about women a lot whilst married.

So, vicariously living as a lesbian now, mostly with what goes through my head, and really hoping that some kind lady will pop my divorce cherry soon (not ready for a relationship). Plan on focusing on girls only for at least 6 months, and seeing if I ever miss sex with men or fantasise about it. Lost a few opportunities to get my divorce cherry popped by being honest about this, but don't want to hurt anyone.