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I'm transgendered MTF. I have an 8 year old son who I am very close to. I'm separated but my ex has been as supportive as you can expect in the circumstances. I'm still in "male mode" when I'm with my son but some changes are getting obvious - like no facial hair, long hair and breast growth. We plan to tell our son soon but we're both really worried.
I don't want to lose the relationship I have with him - nor does my ex - and we don't want him to be bullied at school. It's just something that you can't tell will happen until we tell him - it could all be fine or it could just trigger things. He's very into saying "boys are best" and talking about being a boy. Maybe he's trying to bring something up but doesn't know the right words.
I feel crap that I've put them both through this. I shouldn't have got into the relationship in the first place but I tried to hide everything I was doing. I tried to fight it - but the feeling consumed me. It was so selfish of me to continue the relationship. I hjate how I've screwed up my ex's life. She's been so good - I know other ex's who've wanted nothing to do with it.
I can't stop the process - I can't go back to where I was. But it's going to have such an effect on my son. I hate what I've done to my family - we separated due to other reasons but it all came out in me once I was free to do what I needed to do.
So we plan to tell him soon. School knows - just in case someone brings something up. I just don't want to lose him.
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thisiswhatiam · 07/01/2013 22:48
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