Hello everyone. I just need to talk to someone. See if there's someone else out there experiencing the same. My child (18), born a daughter, came out to us a few days ago as non-binary, meaning she feels neither exclusively male nor female but in her case a bit of both. Now, we suspected something (boys clothes, binders, very uncomfortable with her top half) but thought alongside lesbian, FTM transgender ... sorry if that's stereo typing. We're trying to be fully supportive, told her we're behind her whatever, but I just can't help feeling so sad. She's been carrying the knowledge around with her for almost a year before talking to us. Told us the expected life expectancy is much shorter because of abuse, violence etc. Saying she'll live the next 60 years without actually existing (as everything is either male or female). So that's one side that makes me very upset. The other one, as insignificantly as it sounds, are pronouns. It's them/their/they. So it's "What do they want for dinner" instead of "What does she want for dinner". This is quite important to them and we do try but it's so impersonal to me. I've been trawling the internet the last few days educating myself, just wanted to speak to some real people.