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15yo DS thinks he's bi sexual

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dietstartsmonday · 13/11/2013 21:34

that's it really.

I found out through his younger brother who had ben told by DS1's mate.

I have spoken to him and basically said as long as you you are happy yhats gine by me.

Am disappointed he didn't tell me and he really didn't want to talk about it to me. I have told him he can tell me anything as I love him.

what should I be saying or doing?

his dad (my ex) will not be pleased but I will deal witjlh him if need be

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KissesBreakingWave · 13/11/2013 21:51

Nowt beyond what you have. Be nice to whatever bf/gf he bring home, it won't last, it never does at that age, and since he's old enough to be thinking about it, read him the riot act about proper sti/pregnancy protection for when he gets around to doing it.

Basically exactly what you'd do for a monosexual teenager, but with a bit more flexibility in the pronouns.

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dietstartsmonday · 13/11/2013 23:08

thanks kisses. was all out of the blue so was shocked.

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ems1910 · 13/11/2013 23:10

You have said exactly the right thing! :o)

He may just not have felt ready for it to be so concrete yet, try not to take it to heart.

Agree with what kisses says

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kazuwacky · 19/11/2013 10:06

Quick point that stood out for me: KissesBreakingWave says "it won't last, it never does at that age".

Don't tell him that.

I'm bi, told my mum at 15 and she said it was a phase. Totally heartbreaking to have anyone tell me how I should be feeling or that what I was feeling wasn't real and to hear that from my mother? I stopped talking to her about it and as luck would have it I have a boyfriend now. I've avoided being in gay relationships because I knew I didn't have parental support and simply couldn't picture how I'd bring someone home.

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KissesBreakingWave · 19/11/2013 10:10

I meant the relationships, sorry if that wasn't clear. Teenage romance has something of a high turnover rate, no?

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Rufus44 · 20/11/2013 14:00

My son has said the same at 13, I get very confused about referring to boyfriend/girlfriend.

I just worry about him finding someone to love!!! He is nearly 15 now and I know its early for a relationship but we live in a small village

Agree with kissesbreakingwaves about the whole pronoun thing!

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