Thanks I think my head is only whirly because it's like someone has put up a new signpost and I haven't driven that way before, if that makes sense!
In retrospect the fact that her uni walls are covered in posters of Santana from Glee probably should have given me a clue In an odd way I feel excited for her.. she can stop pretending to be someone she isn't and just be herself at last!
Devora.. thank you... DD IS cool..she is a lovely caring intelligent woman and whoever she ends up with will be a lucky person! She wants children very much too so I hope she finds a way to do so
The reason being, that you sound like lovely, supportive parents who are proud of their daughter for the person she is. She is very lucky to have you (and vice-versa).
The head-whirling will stop in time. Its a natural reaction to a surprise or shock. Your head would have been the same if she'd come home and said she wanted to drop out of uni/move abroad/become a nun! etc but you would have adapted to that and you will to this (in fact it sounds like you already have).
Medusa, you sound like such a lovely mum. And your dd sounds like a very cool girl.
I came out at about the same age, nearly 30 years ago [wizened old crone emoticon] and I have to say my sexual orientation has given me many more benefits than problems. I have a lovely partner, two beautiful dc, and live in a very accepting and warm community.
Your daughter has a lot to look forward to. As do you
She's just turned 20 and is at Uni.. she says she was pretty sure from about 15 and certain by 17 and while she tried having boyfriends it just never really worked. Actually the two boyfriends she did have were both so feminine and I'd be pretty unsurprised if both of them came out sooner or later too, but why it never dawned on me that she was gay, I don't know.. I guess because she is so very girly herself and somehow didn't look like MY imagined stereotype!
I'm proud of her.. because it took guts, even though she could be pretty sure of a loving response from myself and her Dad..we always made it clear that neither of us gives a monkeys about our children's sexuality as long as they were happy and looked for loving caring relationships...
But I'm still a little head spun! I'm not ever sure why because I never even imagined her with a husband.. children yes (she is broody already!) husband no.