My son is gay... :)))

(19 Posts)
belcantwait Wed 30-Mar-11 17:20:23

Aww how lovely. Myself and dh have 'known'all ds1's life that he is gay. I will bebeyond flabbergasted if he isn't (and perhaps slightly disappointed blush)grin. he is nearly thirteen and really 'finding' and expressing himself ATM. I worry about dealing with it in the right way as I feel it's really important. I kind of want to let him know we would be happy with whatever/whoever he is but don't know how to go about any of it! My main concern is that he is quite religious ( the only one in the family to go to quite an evangelical church!).... And i am eorried he will be in conflict and denial!!!!

OP you have clearly done the right thing by your ds smileany advice gratefully received smile

wrighty2010 Tue 22-Mar-11 14:16:27

That is lovely, it must mean a lot to him to be able to tell you. You must be a lovely mum xx

You should have seen me around - I devote my life to this place! As well as Twitter, and Facebook and a bit of Linked In, oh, and my husband and family I suppose...

RCToday Mon 21-Mar-11 23:33:03


reelingintheyears Mon 21-Mar-11 23:16:19

I thought you were RCToday....haha i just got it as i typed it..grin
..I've seen BIWI around before though.

Here's a bit from my friend's speech at her brother's wedding which I thought was so, so lovely:

"Imagine our sorrow one day to learn that our brother for years had felt a need to keep from us something entirely basic to his being.

It wasn’t his being gay that troubled us, of course, it was that the social biases were so ingrained that for years, he felt that he could not open up to us in spite of our closeness to him.

In a flash it dawned on us what a burden he had carried, what an oppressive environment he faced, and I’m not ashamed to tell you that it brought tears to my eyes to consider how hard it must have been for him all those years."

He is in his 30s and hid his sexuality for a very long time which is so terribly sad so I'm glad you think it's a cause for celebration

reeling - BIWI is me! Acronym of my name.

Agent - all going well and 'normalised' IYSWIM now. DS1 and his boyfriend have now split up, but it seemed to have been amicable and they are still friends.

Welcome to the club. smile

BIWI, we met on a LGBT thread before. I've been wondering how you were getting on.

reelingintheyears Mon 21-Mar-11 22:31:41

What is BIWI?

RCToday Mon 21-Mar-11 22:20:11

Fantastic grin

How lovely to see such a positive reaction

BIWI sad

reelingintheyears Mon 21-Mar-11 22:19:39

I'm nearly crying now..

I think he's relieved.

He was crying a little when he said it and so did i...but only because i know what a hard thing it must be to say to your parents.

All we want is for him to be happy...i don't care if he's gay.

He and i have just been on FBchat and the phone with his sister and she's the same..grin shock grin

shock that he's actually said it and grin because we already knew.!!!

Good for him that he can tell you at his age smile

We found out that DS1 is gay last summer - but we didn't have a clue, and it wasn't/isn't obvious at all. It was a bit of a shock! However, the saddest thing was when he told us about his boyfriend - who had been thrown out by his parents when he came out. How awful that must be.

LeninGrad Mon 21-Mar-11 22:13:38

How lovely to feel able to say so young and get such a lovely reaction smile

Congratulations to you all

hester Mon 21-Mar-11 22:10:13

You sound like a lovely family. Congratulations to your son on his coming out, and congratulations to you for being such a lovely mum.

lovely smile

how does he feel after telling you?

QBEE Mon 21-Mar-11 22:02:56


Ingles2 Mon 21-Mar-11 22:01:22

I'm glad you're so proud and supportive.

reelingintheyears Mon 21-Mar-11 22:00:36

We've all known for years that DS is gay...he's only 16 but it'ts always been obvious.

Now tonight he has told me and i'm so PROUD of him.

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