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Household income

(169 Posts)
GuernseyTeddy Mon 16-Dec-13 11:14:54

Just spent the morning cancelling mobile contract, car insurance, contact lenses and any other monthly expenses, ahead of my maternity allowance ending in Feb.

As of 16 feb I will have 0 money at all. All because DP is a higher rate tax payer. No child benefit, no tax credit. Nothing. Similarly because of DPs wage, I can't afford to go back to work as it would cost me money after childcare deductions due to not being eligible for tax credits.

Insane position where I'm being assessed on money that isn't mine.

clam Sat 21-Dec-13 13:50:02

Do you have any friends you could go to for today and overnight?

hotair Sat 21-Dec-13 14:52:33

call the police, tell them you are afraid of what he might do and that he is financially abusing you. get your dad to come now and the police to escort you out.

Wibblypiglikesbananas Sat 21-Dec-13 15:05:28

Is is no time to delay - just get out of there! You can do it.

Damnautocorrect Sat 21-Dec-13 16:34:37

Am I going bonkers in thinking the law changed recently to include financial abuse?

Elfina Sat 21-Dec-13 20:43:01

Please try and leave.

tribpot Sun 22-Dec-13 07:22:40

Hope you got through the night. Today you need just to go.

Can your dad not come today? It's an emergency

tribpot Sun 22-Dec-13 08:31:00

Stealth, I think the OP's dad is coming today. Early doors, I hope.

Ah yes good, I got confused

Hope your dad's on his way now, or maybe even there. Good luck.

finallydelurking Sun 22-Dec-13 09:40:24

How horrible, really hoping the op comes back to say her and her ds are safe with her Dad.

Cannot imagine why this charming man split from his previous wife and is having to go to court to see his daughter hmm

Viviennemary Sun 22-Dec-13 16:37:09

You are either a couple where both of you are responsible financially for each other and your children or single people. I just can't grasp how you think you have no money when your partner earns £60K per annum.

Sarahplane Sun 22-Dec-13 16:45:27

I hope you and your ds are now safely at your parents

Clargo55 Sun 22-Dec-13 16:57:30

Hope you are doing ok OP. Thinking of you and DS x

learnasyougo Sun 22-Dec-13 16:59:40

only 2k after tax and bills? that is more than our GROSS family income (2 adults, one toddler and one on the way. you need to have a serious word with him.

tribpot Sun 22-Dec-13 17:02:55

The 2K is after tax and CSA payments have been deducted, not after bills, learnasyougo. However, I suspect that even if there was 2 grand sloshing around in the family budget after bills had been paid the OP would still have no cash sad

Hermione123 Sun 22-Dec-13 17:16:22

Hope you got away from him op. He sounds appalling and agree csa, and a new plan away from him sounds great.

HaroldTheGoat Mon 23-Dec-13 11:55:50

Hope you are now with your dad OP thanks

BranchingOut Mon 23-Dec-13 12:06:19

Hope all is well.

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