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charity shop baby clothes

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newbymummy83 Mon 11-Nov-13 09:20:22

My husband is an only child and has no cousins. Our baby will be the first grandchild in both out families.

My MIL is not short of money by any means and is often jet setting off around the world. Drives a new car etc.

She knows I love a bit of upcycling,Kirsty Alsop style for both clothes and homewear. However, I draw the line at charity shop baby clothes. Esp when you can get a bit pack of baby grows etc in supermarkets for very little money.

I now have two carrier bags full of new born baby grows that she has bought in charity shops. She hasn't bought one single item as new.

I don't know how to tell her I don't want them. She just keeps bringing them. My husband thinks it's gross too but won't say anything.

Should I tell her?

wonkylegs Sat 16-Nov-13 19:23:54

I bought loads of stuff for DS in charity shops when he was a baby 75% of the newborn stuff had never been worn.
Even if it had, so what - I presume that they've been washed and you will wash them.
Washing is an amazing process, if you haven't come across it before - it gets rid of all the gross stuff and then the clothes come out clean! Very clever.

weebarra Sat 16-Nov-13 19:17:04

I buy lots of clothes for the DCs from charity shops. Having just had DD after two DSs, we were innundated with baby girl clothes, many of which were just worn once or twice. Whoever picks them up when I've donated them will be getting real bargains.

VerySmallSqueak Sat 16-Nov-13 19:15:54

I agree with lljkk.

It doesn't matter what the item of clothing is.Even swimwear,pj bottoms,or,yes,underwear.
Once they've gone through the washing machine they're clean.That's the point of washing machines.

VerySmallSqueak Sat 16-Nov-13 19:13:15

I think that you are in a very lucky position to be able to turn your nose up at charity shop clothes for baby.

They are just fine - run them through a wash and hang on a line to dry.If you have a sicky baby you may be glad of them.DD2 went through up to 5 complete clothes and bedding changes A DAY!

You can get thicker,warmer and better quality stuff 2nd hand than you can for the same price new in a supermarket.

Babies don't care what they're wearing so long as they are warm,comfortable and dry.

And it's so much better for the environment to recycle clothes that are,after all,only worn for a few weeks.

cantheyseeme Sat 16-Nov-13 19:05:53

I agree with OP! I would buy outfits and coats etc from a charity shop for dcs but not babygrows i think simply for the fact they are probably the same price brand new in tesco in multipacks etc. Im not snobby at all when it comes to charity shops and hand me downs just seems a bit daft hmm

lljkk Sat 16-Nov-13 18:56:39

I do think OP's DH must tell his mum if they are wasted purchases and entirely up to OP what she feels comfortable with, but..

(Slacker alert).
I'd buy undies in a charity shop if they fit & I was in need. I've bought swim suits there & still wearing happily. My washing machine works fine.

Maybe the reason the MIL has so much dosh is because over the yrs she didn't turn her nose up at perfectly good pre-owned stuff, watch the pennies & the pounds will watch themselves, all that.

Preciousbane Sat 16-Nov-13 18:38:32

Babies fit in to stuff for a few weeks, it is a monumental waste of money buying everything new for tiddlers. You say MIL is well off, she probably is because she has done things like this.

Pass to your local women's refuge preferably or to the charity shop of your choice if you really won't use them.

lilmissmummy1 Fri 15-Nov-13 18:23:08

To be honest, if she has loads of money then she's being a bit stingy shopping in charity shops for her grandchilds clothes!wink

lilmissmummy1 Fri 15-Nov-13 18:22:16

If you don't want them, don't use them. It's your baby and don't let anyone bash you for your decisions.

If you'd rather not tell her, just donate them to another charity shop!smile

treaclesoda Fri 15-Nov-13 17:55:32

No one is saying that she shouldn't be allowed to do what she wants for her first baby, its just that if she normally enjoys searching for things in charity shops, its not a surprise that her MIL might think she has done a nice thing by doing the same for her. To then be accused of being a cheapskate or whatever is just a bit, well, harsh. Also, the comment about second hand clothes for a baby being gross was pretty offensive, although the OP has since backtracked a bit on that.

Oly4 Fri 15-Nov-13 17:43:28

I think you're all being incredibly harsh. When I had my first baby, I wanted all new babygros and enjoyed the process of buying them. I have gratefully accepted hand me downs since then and given plenty myself. But the op should be able to do what she wants at this special time.
Give the babygros to a charity shop or women's refuge (excellent idea). Then you won't hurt your
MILs feelings. Tell her thanks but you have more than enough now.

Tableforfour Wed 13-Nov-13 21:55:24

Would you accept things second hand from a friend? How is a charity shop different. I can't imagine how much I've saved by getting clothes second hand, hundreds if pounds I'm sure. I think you're mad, sorry.

rallytog1 Tue 12-Nov-13 22:44:47

Are you going to refuse hand-me-downs as well op?

Some of my baby's nicest clothes are from charity shops and other people. To be honest, given how quickly they grow and how much they sick/wee/poo everywhere, I think it's pretty daft to insist on only having brand new stuff.

Ragwort Mon 11-Nov-13 11:33:57

I've bought bras, nightwear and swimsuits from charity shops draw the line at second hand knickers though grin.

Pancakeflipper Mon 11-Nov-13 10:48:38

I bet loads of baby clothes have never been worn or worn once or twice. Shift through for the best stuff. If you don't want them contact your nearest women's refuge who often need a decent stock of clothing. Or those who organise trips loaded with goods for orphanages.

There's nothing the slightest bit 'gross' about it, and I suspect once the newborn fog wears off you'll find you're a bit less bothered by the idea. Give them all a wash and tuck them away - there will be moments when your PFB has puked over everything he/she owns when you may well decide that you are not actually that fussed after all.

But - this is the moment to say (or get your husband to say) to MIL that, even though you love buying second hand for yourself you are feeling a bit weird about it for the new baby and, no offence, but you'd prefer her not to buy more that way. But thank her for her kindness, and make clear that you understand why she thought you'd want her to do this - I have no doubt she is assuming you'd prefer these over new for reasons other people have already mentioned.

I don't buy underwear in second heand shops, but that's mostly because adults don't grow out of their underwear when it has only been worn a couple of times and is in perfect condition.

I had so many beautiful baby clothes from car boot sales I can not understand buying them new. The rate babies grow out of clothes it would be insane to throw them away - assuming they are not stained. I always gave them a nice hot (90 degree) cottons wash. But then I also used second hand reusable nappies so you probably think I am really gross!?wink

Atari Mon 11-Nov-13 10:35:09

I probably felt the same for my pfb but if i had my time over i would definitely only buy second hand for at least the first 2 years.

New baby clothes are such a waste - of money and the clothes/resources themselves. They wear them for such a shirt time that you (and others!) end up throwing them away when still practically brand new

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SirChenjin Mon 11-Nov-13 10:20:08

No - I wouldn't buy underwear from a charity shop, but then I presume you're planning to buy nappies for your baby? hmm Are you also going to refuse all hand-me-downs on the grounds that they might have poo/wee/vomit on them?

specialsubject Mon 11-Nov-13 10:15:02

it's not 'gross'. Are you twelve?

give them to your local women's refuge where they will be gratefully received. And tell your MIL that you have enough for the baby now, thank you.

moldingsunbeams Mon 11-Nov-13 10:10:41

All of my dds clothes bar two outfits came from the charity shops/car boots etc. She was in first size for a handful of weeks. What a waste to buy it all new.

Having said that we went through a stage of being given boys clothes for dd a couple of years back, not an issue if she was little but she was in upper juniors. So if you have to you need to say something now.

duchesse Mon 11-Nov-13 09:59:58

Dear god, most people with new babies are only too happy to receive passed on clothing! Clothes do wash you know. As soon as you have a baby people pass on bags of stuff.

DD3 has practically only ever had 2nd hand clothing as she's my last by a long stretch (after I'd given away all the baby stuff) and I don't intend to buy things new for her.

Artandco Mon 11-Nov-13 09:57:23

But nurses only need to wash there clothes at 60 also to kill the germs off from all types of germs/ vomit etc.. Wash at 95 degrees if you like. As long as they aren't cashmere they won't shrink

Artandco Mon 11-Nov-13 09:55:51

Oh and it's not even a money thing here. I would quite happily spend £50 on a nice ethically sourced woollen cardigan for a baby, as well as charity shop finds.

The local one had babygrows for £1 last year. I just brought 10 but happily have £20 to the charity

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