Inherited property issues

[Oots]

My mother recently died and by brother and I inherited a holiday home 50/50. We have fallen out because my brother wants to allow his friends to use it and I don't want that. My reason centres around cleaning because I know that his friends are slobs and will leave the property in a terrible state. My view is that those who use it should leave it in a clean state ready for the next person. Because it is abroad it is not easy to find a cleaner and actually the place is so small that all it would take is a bit of consideration from those staying there. Does anyone have any thoughts on how we could resolve this problem as it is causing a huge divide.

[titchy]

He buys you out? You buy him out? You rent it out through Owners Direct or similar and the income from that pays for a cleaner? You have it 6 months straight and he has it 6 months straight so if his friends leave it in a state it'll only be in a state for his next lot of friends? Or just sell it.

[Oots]

Thanks Titchy - good ideas but our situation is a bit complex. He won't buy me out because he doesn't have the money and also because it is a special family property we kind of want our own children to have a link to their heritage and the countryside around it so we have an emotional attachment too, which is part of the problem. I think that if his mates had it for 6 months it would be in such a state by the end of it that I wouldn't even want to see it. The last time my mum had to clear up after his friends, it took 3 days to clean the property and there was pizza behind the TV_ :-(

[MidniteScribbler]

Put in a rule that if anyone other that you or your brother use it that the guests must pay for a professional cleaner upon vacating?

[LyndaNotLinda]

Why would you let anyone stay in for 6 months? It's a holiday home - don't you want to use it for holidays?

[LyndaNotLinda]

And sorry for your loss

[Lunar1]

I would sell it. How much will the sentiment mean if he pesters you into letting them stay, they trash it and you and your brother fall out.

[panegyricS1]

Do you want your friends to be able to use it? If not, then it's fair to enforce a "family only" rule. If so, then you might have to accept that his friends can use it too, maybe with the proviso that all guests, yours and his, pay for a local cleaner after each stay.

[MyKingdomForBrie]

Crikey no I would not be letting such irresponsible rude idiots stay there, why on earth would he want them to stay? And for six months?! No chance! You may want to go there in that time so that's totally unfair.

[SwedishEdith]

Sell it and buy your own place in same area?

[anotherdayanothersquabble]

Try harder to find a cleaner.... There must be someone!!