child choosing not to see parent

[jayho]

so we have court ordered contact, my ex has chosen not to see one of his children, despite the order, child A for the purposes of this, these is a younger child he does nave contact with, Child B

This weekend there was a regular social activity I was taking Child A, Child b was aware. Father was not taking child B. Child B stated clearly he did not want contact with father, he would prefer to attend activity with me and Child A.

I communicated this to father.

I have not blo cked contact, he could still collect and enforce his rights.

He tells me I have I with held contact and he will return to court.

I agree there might have been a standoff but it's for him to manage, I just communicated the situation.

Both children are primary aged (but not infants) btw

We have been separated for six years.

he has not been seeing eldest for +6months and makes no proposal to resume

Child B would have been available at normal time from normal place etc

Views?

[RandomMess]

I think he would be foolish to take you back to court on one incidence.

I suggest you put in writing "You misunderstood my communication of //-- at o'clock. I was only advising you that Child B was telling me that they did not wish to have contact. I was still expecting you to collect as per contact agreement and resolve the issue with Child B yourself. In future I will not communicate Child B's wishes."

[jayho]

Phew, that's what I said: 'at liberty to collect just fyi, he doesn't want to go...', I'm also interested at what a family court judge would think of him choosing to enforce contact with one child but not the other?

[RandomMess]

I'm not a legal but I'd let him get on with it.

Sadly enforced contact does happen but I suspect your ex is just throwing his weight around thinking he can intimidate you. Or he's looking for an excuse to end contact and blame you for it...

[jayho]

i don't mind the latter, would make it easier for my children who are currently separated by his wishes and not happy,