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Divorce form D8 - What to put in part 6?

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IceRoadDucker Tue 28-Jun-16 11:41:09

I'm stumped as to what to put in this box, because it's a simple case of us growing apart/falling out of love/having nothing in common. Neither of us have cheated, been abusive, threatened, or even insulted the other. I just don't want to be married to him anymore.

Can anyone advise me what to write here? Will they actually refuse a divorce if they don't think my reasons are good enough? confused

IceRoadDucker Tue 28-Jun-16 11:46:05

I should have explained why I'm unsure about just writing, "I don't love him anymore" as that seems the obvious course of action... I googled and the advice was to list several "incidents" to demonstrate why I want the marriage to end. Since there have been no particular incidents, I'm uncertain.

prh47bridge Tue 28-Jun-16 13:42:17

It depends which box you tick in part 5. If you tick the box "The Respondent has behaved in such a way that the Petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with the Respondent" you need to give examples of his unreasonable behaviour. They don't have to be terribly strong but you need to come up with something.

If you tick one of the other boxes in part 5 you need to give details of the desertion, adultery or separation as appropriate.

IceRoadDucker Tue 28-Jun-16 13:52:02

Thanks. smile I've ticked the "unreasonable behaviour" box as there was no adultery. All I can really put truthfully is his sulking/ignoring me as his way of dealing with disagreements. Difficult to put dates on it though since I didn't exactly keep a log...

MrsBertBibby Tue 28-Jun-16 15:36:04

That sort of thing is fine. Help the judgevout by eplaining the impact on you, is my advice for more trivial behaviour. The judge knows it isn't reasonable for anyone to live with someone who hits them, but needs a bit more help to see why (for instance) a husband spending all day at golf is unbearable to a particular wife, when many others would be fine with it.

You don't need dates, but it needs to be current stuff, there's no point harping on about stuff from 2 years ago.

Collaborate Wed 29-Jun-16 06:39:27

If you write that you don't love him anymore, and only that, your petition won't be successful. You have to put details of his behaviour, otherwise base it on 2 years separation and consent.

Familylawsolicitor Thu 30-Jun-16 15:21:13

You need at least 4-6 examples.
They can be mild. But say roughly when the happened (can be throughout the marriage or over a broad period of time), what happened and how it made you feel

EG

The respondent in the months prior to separation would not attempt to resolve disagreements constructively but would sulk and not engage with me. This made me feel that he did not care about improving our marriage.

The respondent would in over the past year or so before separation often ignore me when I tried to engage him in discussion which made me feel that he was not interested in my opinions.

Here are some more

The respondent showed little interest in socialising with me or in my interests making me feel that he wanted to lead a separate life to me

The respondent stopped paying me any compliments or acknowledging what I do for the family since the birth of our first child making me unloved and unappreciated

Familylawsolicitor Thu 30-Jun-16 15:24:03

PS if you are speaking terms with your ex explain that you have to write this stuff to get a divorce now otherwise you will both need wait for 2 years separation. Send him a draft first to see if he objects to anything and offer to change some of the examples if he prefers. This is conducive to him promptly acknowledging the petition and not crossly tearing it up and ignoring it which would result in considerable delay in you getting the divorce

Thankfulforeveryday Thu 30-Jun-16 15:36:29

I found this difficult too as we were the same.
I used the fact that we didn't socialise together etc and he wanted therefore to behave as a single person not a married one etc!
Also I put that if he had a choice he chose to play golf with friends rather than spending time as a family.
They were all very similar to these, so nothing major!

I was proper scraping the barrel but it was granted and we are divorced.

IceRoadDucker Fri 01-Jul-16 11:12:52

Thanks again everyone. I'll go with some of Familylawsolicitor's suggestions and also explain this to him. I know he'll be really hurt to read it. sad

Cabrinha Sat 02-Jul-16 09:23:35

Are you both in agreement that you want to divorce?
If so, don't be the bad guy writing them. Tell him it needs to be a joint effort to come up with something,

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