I am sat here shaking, my mum doesn't deal with anything financially very well she shuts down an panics, I try to help ease her trauma as much as I can which is difficult as live far away from her. She has refused to let me have any legal financial power we even got to the solicitors years ago an at the point of signing giving me the power to sort everything out for her she stopped it.
My mum has a history of mental health issues, so had her sister who ended up being sectioned because of dementia so completely out of my hands, my mum thinks that it was me who put her sister into a home. I didn't that decision was taken away from us because of the section. Very traumatic time especially dealing with my mum too. Sorry long post please bear with me.
I have been trying to sort some financial stuff out recently for my mum so Long process of her posting stuff an me posting it back marked where she needs to sign, sent stuff this week for her to sign she phoned me today, no recognition that it was my writing an had highlighted where to sign even though we had a conversation a few days ago about this, she just shuts down with paperwork an panics, I am so upset right now I have been here before with her sister and quite frankly I don't know if I can deal with this again, she is still refusing to legally let me deal with stuff even though she panics with every bit of post coming in.
I try to minimize her post as much as possible by getting it online an paperless so it comes to me which she fine about me doing this etc. She still however thinks that I may put her in a home if I get financial control. I wouldn't obviously or could not do that anyway.
I promised my dad I would help her with financial stuff when he died, so have continued this, I am finding this so hard right now. Has always been traumatic, She gets very agitated an aggressive when I visit to try to sort stuff out. Even though she admits she has no idea how to sort stuff out, she has no appreciation of what I do an just how much it stresses me out because of her behaviour towards me.
There is nothing I can do legally is there? Has anyone else been through this an found a way to make it easier to deal with? Apart from washing my hands of it completely. Thanks for reading this long post if you have got this far.
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dasso · 07/05/2016 14:19
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