Hello mumsnet,
I have a friend who i have to now distance myself from because I have seen a different side to her, am wary of her actions, believe she is manipulative and perhaps just not a very nice person and morally do not agree with what she is doing. The only small thing is that she trusts me and i am likely one of only 2 people who know about her situation. It's only after time and knowing her that I have started to feel very strongly about the dishonest nature of her.
I would welcome any thoughts on this and peoples views. I will set the scene.
She moved to London from Sydney late in 2010 to begin a new life. (I met her in 2012) she is an Australian citizen but was born in China. (her mother lives in China and her father lives in Sydney. She doesn't speak to her father and has no contact)
She was dating a German man soon after moving to London. After only being together for about a year she married him in order to obtain an EEA Family Permit which would enable her to stay living & working legally in the UK under EU law. (she was on a 2 year working holiday visa prior to this) they were living (renting)together but 2 years later he told her he no longer wanted to be with her. He is a higher earner and would be able to pay the rent on his own, she however wouldn't. She was also concerned about her visa and legal situation if he divorced her. They came to an agreement in which he said he won't divorce her until she can sort out some other visa allowing her to stay and that he would allow her to stay living in the flat at a lower rent and he would pay the bills. He had the bedroom and for over a whole year(!!) up until last summer she stayed there but sleeping on the sofa! Due to their different work patterns they often weren't in at the same time anyway and have maintained an amicable friendship. During this year and a half she kept prolonging her stay as he kept asking her if she'd found anywhere else to live. She kept putting it off and i believe manipulated him and possibly blackmailed him into this.
Around spring time 2015 (whilst still living at his place on the sofa) she met a Spanish man who she started dating. She is still dating this new man and moved into his flat (which he owns) just before Christmas last year. To my knowledge she still has some belongings at her "husbands' (the German man) and is still married to him. The new man she is now with has absolutely no idea about all of this and doesn't know she is married. She has not told him the truth and he believes she was living with literally a "flatmate". She is now living pretty much rent free in the new mans place.
What she is doing is actually illegal since her EEA family permit assumes you are living with your spouse (obviously) she s abusing the system and manipulating both men. I completely disagree with her actions and she is just taking liberties.
I presume if she gets caught she could get into a lot of trouble about this. I also how long she can live and be with this Spanish man without him finding out the truth?
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WineAndThyme · 10/04/2016 11:31
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