Post divorce we have a standard court order for eow, one midweek, half the holidays.
During half term, 11 yo said that ex assaulted him.
Police and SS investigation, ex denies. SS have offered intervention on safety basis, ex has declined.
Police & SS do not believe there are any safeguarding issues and that contact can resume after suspension pending investigation. SS advice that it should be phased to build trust and confidence.
11yo does not want contact, 7 yo does not wnant to go alone.
I am completely supportive of rebuilding trust, confidence, relationshiip etc.
Initially ex proposed seeing just 7 yo, punishing 11yo. I explained that the court order covers both and he needs to propose a way forward that achieves this.
he then asked me to drop at his rather than collecting from school. I attempted this, the children refused to leave the car. I called him and asked for alternatives, he had none.
I've suggested him meeting the children at a neutral venue or a third party collecting the kids.
Where do I stand?
Thanks
supportive bit may be through clenched teeth
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jayho · 09/03/2016 19:09
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