Please bare with me I am new and have signed up for help/guidance.
My ex and I have three children together. We were involved in a on off relationship and it was a horrible situation.
Background, ex was abusive both emotionally and physically police called many times and she has been cautioned five times for DV.
Every time I left the house in the years we were together she threaten me and say I will never see the children again. I went to court and got an order stating i get access 50/50. This was in 2010. She messed around with contact never showing and then trying to say i had said i did not want contact or at worst times trying to say i neglected the children :(
Anyway she had a very scary hold over me. I know now that i was being manipulated but at the time I felt that i needed her and so on.
Anyway over the course of the next five years we got back together then spilt up over and over again.
Last time I had contact with my children was over 6 months ago. I went to her mums house where i am meant to pick the children up and my ex was there. She tried to talk to me about getting back in a relationship. I however told her that I love her and my children dearly but our relationship is in no way healthy and i was not willing to put the children through it anymore.
Then she completely lost it started throwing things at me(kettle,dishes) as I bend down to get my back to leave she slammed my head in the door and kept slamming it back and forth. I managed to get out the house and I phoned the police. They came took a statement (never heard back).
I phoned social services for help but they said if no risk to the children nothing can be done. I had no money to go back to court and was stuck. I went to the council for a place to stay as had no job (ex had made me lose every job i ever had by hiding my uniforms so i could not go in or phoning the job up causing trouble) and no permanent home (was staying with a relative)
Anyway (sorry for long post) I have been back and forth trying to find where I stand on anything and got some progress today from a helpful lady at citizens advice she said because there is already a court contact order in place i need to fill out a c79 form, basically it is a form for when an order is broke.
I have done and sent it off with the court fee. My question is will the court even listen me with the court order being so long ago (2010) we have never been back to court about it because we got back together and the times when we spilt up she would always contact me a week later asking me to come round and help with the children and we would end up being back together.
I know its long and most likely confusing but I am heartbroken I need my children I love them and all this is tearing me apart.
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Broken contact order am I doing the right thing???
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nicklin89 · 06/01/2016 20:13
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