My ex has made it clear he doesn't want to be part of our baby's life. he wanted her aborted, didn't attend any scans etc. and after her birth said that he didn't want to be on the birth certificate.
Since I left my ex (a week before finding out I was pregnant) he has been bitterly, verbally abusive and obsessive with me. During my pregnancy he would be outside my house at the door so that I couldn't leave (even when I was 7 months pregnant) he would be sending me love messages, countless voicemails, calling me from different numbers and texting me from computer messaging sites with creepy messages at early hours in the morning. If he wasn't sending creepy messages he was sending me abusive ones. I only ever responded to him twice after this: firstly to tell him about my scan and the second time to tell him the baby's gender. He ignored both of these and continued with messaging me that he wanted to do sexual things with me and then continued verbally abusing me after realising I was ignoring him again.
After my baby was born I messaged him and I asked him if he wanted to come and see the baby. he came over looked at her and poked her. He asked nothing about her and then started to flirt with me. I didn't respond to flirting and I instead started talking about the baby - he then began shouting at me (whilst week old baby was on my lap!) I asked him to leave. Since this he has called me and told me that he will have "a lot more control" if he gets on the birth certificate.. I don't know what he meant but it felt like some kind of threat, As he never even asks about her. Since he said this to me he sent a letter through my door that seemed as though it was written with legal help, it sounded nothing like him and said things about "arranging times to visit baby" and "financial help for me" I'm really confused.
I am now worried that my ex is trying to regain control of me using our baby whom he has expressed no interest in. If he applies to Court and they can see that he has been abusive and expressed no interest, will they refuse his application?
Since he said this to me I have saved his text messages, one of them being about not wanting to be on the certificate in the first place and a few abusive messages but thats all I have now. I used to delete the messages as they were so horrible and hurtful. Now he has sent me this letter will they take it into consideration? It's not even his writing. I feel a bit scared of him. I've also found out some of the ways in which he can control me. Most of my family live abroad and i have always travelled. If he takes control he can stop me moving to my family or even making a passport for baby.
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Danity856 · 29/12/2015 14:29
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