I have 4 children with my ex.
He has a conviction for assault on me from over a decade ago.
I had him charged 8/9 years ago although it was thrown out through lack of evidence (it went to court)
He has been abusive since then I have no evidence of this.
He started being awful (going from not really giving a shit) to our dc about 5 years ago.
I got away.
One of my dc has been diagnosed with anxiety due to his treatment of them.
Another had to suffer a huge homophobic rant by him and is very upset by that.
After that I broke all contact.
He has my email and has emailed maybe 3 or 4 times in a year. Twice to say he was coming to where we were and asking to see the dc, he didn't come anyway. Once to ask me why I said something awful to him on facebook (which I'm not on and haven't been for many years) and there was another one asking for my address.
I gave him a family members address and he sent gifts for 3 of our children, but not the other.
He calls an old phone he knows is out of use to 'prove' he tries to keep in touch despite having my actual phone number (he is very clever about keeping record of things to make himself look good)
He lives hundreds of miles away.
He genuinely can't handle them all together.
He cannot handle the dc with anxiety at all, he shouts screams and is heavy handed.
He and a member of my family had a 'campaign' against me and made repeated calls to SS about various things, all were unfounded and found to be malicious (they are ongoing, but SS pay no attention now) obviously I have no proof this was him.
I can't have him showing up every 4-6 months for a couple of days upsetting my dc and then going away again, there is no chance of consistant contact from him.
He can't maintain consistant skype/phone contct, I have given him many opportunities to prove himself, regular contact lasts a couple of weeks then tails off.
Over the last few years I have done my best to facilitate contact for the sake of my dc, I did all the running, I don't do this anymore because he isn't bothered about them, just how he looks to others, his new girlfriend, I believe, is pushing him to take me to court for contact. he will probably do it to impress her.
Does anyone have any clue where he would stand on getting access to my dc?
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What are the chances he will he get access to my children?
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willhegetmykids · 15/11/2015 19:43
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