PLEASE don't tell me to go through social services as theyve been completely and utterly useless.
can it be done via the police or the post adoption panel? (theyre not very helpful either btw).
my childs adopted by me. DCs birth parents have a court injunction (DC was abused in every way and taken into care). so far they havent broken the court order.
However, DCs blood grandparent, who i always agreed to maintain WRITTEN( letters) contact is harrassing us.
There are 3 ways of post adoption contact: face to face, phone or letters.
DC is scared of grandparent, Ive kept in touch as granparent always been supportive and understanding and has usually been quite nice.
But theyve been in the past year or so trying to phone (ive had to change my number) to speak to DC but because DCs ggot a sharp memory doesnt want to speak or have contact with anyone from DCS past. (DCs a teen now, was adopted at 4 years old).
grandparents never done anything bad to DC but grandparents partner (not relatae d ina nay way to DC) is a very aggressive loud scary (scares ME, never mind DC) person who petrifies DC and also grandparent keeps saying theyre going to take DC away from me, which has freaked DC out no end. DC and I are very very close and IM the parent, Im the mother.
so DC doesnt want any contact at all with grandparent. Ive kept it up out of the goodness of my heart.
ive repeatedly stated contact via post ONLY yet grandparent KEEPS blatantly ignoring me. they live abroad and every time they come to the UK keep trying to meet with DC and Ive never siad DC doesnt want anything to do with them as I dont want to hurt their feelings, and just make excuses about DC not being well (not a lie, DCS disabled for life because of the abuse).
last week they came round our place! luckily we were upstairs and i saw out of the window they were looking in the downstairs window andd knocking on door.
I have notices on door saying 'no unvinvited, visits by appointment ONLY, etc etc, no cold callers and the like. NO EXCEPTIONS. not even if the queen came round! they took no notice of it.
The reason Ive got sign on door is because DC freaks out with starngers or unexpected visitors.
plus, by actually turning up at our place theyre tresspassing, harrassing and stalking. the rules stste they are NOT to do this, post only.
DC was in bedroom and luckily didnt see them, had DC been downstairs and theyve looked through window and DC was to see them, DC would have literally had a heart attack!
I didnt call police as i didnt want a scene in our quiet road, plus a stand off that DC would have heard and witnessed, so disrtessing DC even more.
its the blatant ignoring, selfish for not thinking of DCS welfare, not taking ME seriously, and as they live in small community theyll be spreading round slander and defamation of character.
so i need (all for DCS sake) to slap a non-molestation/non-harrassment/court order on them.
Im a full time carer for DC so Im on benefits and cant afford a lawyer, nor court visits or anything like that.
Is there a way the police can place an order on them or do i need to go somewhere for legal aid for a lawyer?
I dont have time for all that as DC requires 24/7 care and i have no help with DC.
thank you, if anyone can advise, sorry this is long. its very upsetting.
btw CAB are also useless where I live.
have to log off, dont have a lot of credit (dongle) on internet but ill read wheni can, hopefully with some replies.
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Adoptakid · 29/09/2015 18:38
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