I have a massive amount of paperwork relating to my divorce/custody issues (many moons ago - DC now in his 20s and I've been happily re-married for a long time). Many of the documents are highly unpleasant, showing ex up to be the very vindictive & prurient person that he was/is. He's still on the scene as DC lives near him & has, particularly after leaving home, been unfortunately influenced by the ex who hasn't moved on in his life and is still angry and difficult. This ex made my family's life intolerable.
Now, I have nothing to do with him expect, of course that he's within a stone's throw of DC who has MH difficulties and so, I suppose, ex is some kind of contact, albeit a very unreliable one.
Anyway, what to do with this mass of papers? I don't want my other DCs to see them, or, if ever he returns home (long story) my oldest DC. There are things in them about me, about my parents, even my present DH which are horrible to read, even after all these years.
I worry that if I died, the papers would be there for the reading (hidden, of course, away at present). Or the DCs could find them in the course of rummaging around the house. Could I deposit them somewhere or is it now time to check them out - and deal with DC1 without any of this baggage. The fact that his father was a complete and utter s_t, with gross behaviour, is maybe now not relevant insofar as brining anything up now can't make any difference to DC' wellbeing. Except perhaps to explain, if explanations are necessary, why it was entirely necessary to protect DC1 from his father.
Any advice would be welcome.
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Keep hold of (very) old divorce/custody documents or chuck them?
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Sioned1649 · 24/08/2015 09:09
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