I was wondering if anyone had any specific advice regarding how my DH can deal with his ExW repeatedly going against their court order?
In the specific details it was stipulated that there was only to be relevant communications and absolutely no personal attacks. DH has been receiving increasingly abusive and threatening communications from his exW and her fiancee since he was forced to reduce maintenace payments (we were on reduced pay for 6 months, havent been paid at all since November and are now living on soon to be maxed out credit cards. We cant even afford to heat our house!!). DH is devastated that he has been unable to contribute towards his children due to our failing business, but there is nothing we can do about it, which he has apologised for and explained to her on numerous occasions. We are confident that losing his relatively small contribution to her household income for a few months is not going to cause them any undue financial issues, especially as she recently returned to work. Her response has been to threaten to tell the children details about his life before they were married (she already slates DH, my DS and myself to the children regularly) and sending mass essay length barrages of abuse to him. She refuses to believe him, but also refuses to go to the csa as she believes that we are lying about the financial situation (something she did when she hid £50k+ in the divorce, so i imagine she is just judging him by her own standards...)
As a slight aside... One particular issue that was raised in the court order was that we were unhappy with her and her partner threatening to smack the children as a means of discipline - saying that even the threat of violence was unacceptable. DSD and DSS have both expressed fears before and after the Court Hearing and both myself and DH have tried to reassure them that "grown ups are not allowed to smack children". DH's exW has told us this morning that we are undermining her forms of discipline and that she will continue to threaten to smack them, but what do you do when a child is shaking and crying with fear that they will be smacked by another person? There is a strong history of her emotionally abusing the children, but we have found that there is next to nothing that we can do about it.
Sorry for the essay, we are so upset about this. DH's grandmother has just died, we are in financial crisis and may lose our house, DH is devastated by the whole situation and I am having a really horrendous fibromyalgia relapse from all the stress she is piling onto an already tricky situation.
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Going against a court order again!!!
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Asteria · 15/01/2015 14:05
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