Hi, I know this has been discussed quite a lot but I just need to get some things clear in my head. I've been stressing about it for days now & just have no idea what to do. Sorry its a bit long but dont want to drip-feed.
My DS is 3 and has had very little contact with his "father" since he was about 10mths old. My ex was violent & I threw him out of my home. SS came to my home & declared that they were 100% happy with me, that my home was lovely & my son was clearly very happy & well cared for. They removed me from their books, so to speak. The only thing they did suggest was that his dad see him in a contact centre.
For a year my ex refused, but we did use the contact centre for 6mths. He was always late, or didnt turn up etc. 6mths ago he stopped attending. I do get from the CSA, but the CSA did it all through his employer as he was unwilling to do things amicably.
Son has his fathers last name, his father has PR.
I want to take DS to the US later this year. I can obviously take his birth cert to prove Im his mother, but I understand they may ask about a letter of permission & the US Embassy "strongly suggests" that you have this when travelling.
Now I dont speak to my ex because of the violence. I dont have his phone number etc. To be honest I dont want to ask permission because I dont actually want to make contact with him & open up the can of worms again. Residency takes up to a year, SIO could be requested but it all comes down to me "asking him" or going to court about it. Im not sure what is best to do here!
Im aware that I can probably chance it with the BC and explain if questioned. My son is going to say that Im his mum etc & we look alike...but what do people say when they have no contact?
Do you tell them in the US that you havent got permission because there is no contact/violence & hope for the best? How likely is it that they will turn you away or deny entry if its clearly a family holiday & you have a return ticket?
Im so worried about this!
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