abusive ex-has PR- threatened suicide and to take dd with him-can i have sole PR?

[pod3030]

Just that really, ex was always threatening suicide if things didnt go his way when we were together, did some awful things (i had a cs and when dd was 3 weeks old he made me have sex with him whilst she screamed in the cot next to me) he often got me to call an ambulence for him when things weren't revolving around him (narcissist) and stopped me going to dd when she needed me. He put her at risk so many times.

I know it's rare, but is this enough to stop him having parental responsibility?

[balia]

Probably not, but might be enough for supervised access? What is the current situation?

[Ziggyzoom]

Are these threats current? If so, report it to the police as Domestic Abuse. This will trigger a process whereby Social care would be involved and his ability to parent would be assessed.

[pod3030]

that's what's in the offing at the moment- stopped contact, waiting for him to take me to court, got legal aid due to domestic abuse, looking at contact centre access. But i understand that contact centres are only temporary, and will be working towards unsupervised access in future.

[pod3030]

Ziggy even if there were no witnesses? it is just my word against his. Will they still log it? The threats were a fortnight ago- not sure if too late to report.

[Ziggyzoom]

Never too late. Yes, they will log it and the threats to your child mean that they will have to notify Social Care. Good luck.

[pod3030]

Thankyou all x

[mineofuselessinformation]

Can you contact him by text? Maybe you could write something asking him to reassure you that he won't take this course of action. I think if you could get something in writing you would have a very strong case for supervised contact.

[mousmous]

have you got text messages from him?
I would call 101 maybe and ask for advice (but please listen to more wise mnetters)

[pod3030]

No texts, just verbal. He would be very suspicious of me texting him- he's guarded over what he writes now.

[cestlavielife]

What happened when you called ambulance for him ? There will be record of that,
Communicate only by text or email or tell him you recording.