Mil has passed away recently, no will but only 2 siblings. There is a property, a bit of money in the bank and personal jewelry and the like. Nothing particularly valuable except a couple of rings. The estate is over £100,000 under the inheritance tax threshold. DH and sibling are acting as joint executors, they are in the process of filling in the forms for the letters of administration.
This should be straight forward.
However, about 5 -6 years ago Mil lent us a sum of money as we were in difficulties. When it became clear we were not going to be able to pay it back, she said to make it into a gift and to forget it and move on. There was no formal agreement, no repayments and nothing in writing. The amount will not affect any IHT liabilities.
Sibling is now insisting we pay it back, that we put it down on the form as a loan, not a gift. Can they make us? This and their attitude to Mil's bits and pieces are really getting to DH, making him ill. Not that it is relevant in legal terms, but they have so much more than us [7 figure pension pot is mentioned frequently for example] the amount of money would be very little to them, but a lot to us, so please don't flame me as it is hard enough losing a much loved mum and Mil with out this extra worry.