I am looking for a solution to end erratic and inconsistent contact between my DS and ExP. ExP is abusive and controlling and despite our separating almost 3 years ago, continues to try and assert control over whatever he can. The most difficult is the contact. He is named on the birth certificate.
He refuses to adhere to any notion of fixed contact arrangement. He claims that his work is erratic and uses this as an excuse. he will give as little as 12 hours’ notice of when he wants to see DS. Lately he had been non-contact for 12 weeks, a period which included DS's birthday.
I work full time and pay for childcare. he has a detachment order from CSA.
I would like to try and get some stability for my DS. i understand that I cannot make him see his DS , my main concern is his just turning up to DS's nursery and taking him without notice. i am constantly on egg shells and can never forward plan. I have never said no to a contact. DS displays distress at not seeing his DF, he is only 3 but both at home and at nursery his behaviour is notably changed after erratic contact -seems to have consistent behaviour when contact is less.
Is a contact order a possibility to regulate things. I don't want to limit his contact, ideally i would like to secure fixed days when he is with me, so I know he will still be at nursery when I go to pick him up. Are there any other leagl avenues I could explore? How much will the likely cost be? any help appreciated.
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filthycute · 22/10/2013 13:24
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