Hi, I really need advice.
I split up with my ex partner last year, when my baby girl was just 6 months old. She is now 20 months old, and she lives with me. We had a difficult relationship, and well he had met another woman even before I had moved out.
We had a verbal agreement, well he decided it, and I couldn’t change it, that he sees our daughter every Wednesday after work for about 40 min, I let him into my house, I know that our daughter needs a father, it’s better than being ignored by her father. Also he is having her for a day at the weekend, either Saturday or Sunday.
Last month he decided that he would start to have her over night though, so I’ve asked him to wait until she is 2 - as she gets used to be with her mummy only and she still wakes up at night - but then, he said that he will get a bed sooner, just to wind me up I think, then he said that he will have her for 3 nights per week, after he was angry with me. Well I get used to the idea, he is her father after all, and he wants to see her as well.
Last night he came to visit a little one as usual – we had just got back from a week’s holiday in Spain, which he was fully aware of incidentally - and at the end, he asked me something, but I didn’t hear as the little one was crying, so he yelled at me:
“Oi, I’m talking to you! Answer the bloody question when I’m talking to you!!!”
I said I didn’t hear, but he just carry on, and so I asked him to leave but he started yelling even more that I’m F this, F that and that! Right in front of my little one, she was in shock, then started crying, she understands much more now, and it’s sort of normal for him to yell at me like that in front of her - I don’t want her to grow up seeing that! That’s the point why I’m trying to avoid having much conversation with him, because if I disagree with him about anything he just starts yelling at me again etc.
So, after yelling, he asked to hold the little one, but he then ran to his car and locked her in the car. I tried to stop him driving off, but he just moved me with his car. He said that he might bring her in half an hour, but because I then rang the police he didn’t bring her at all. This was the first time our daughter had been away from me overnight, and obviously I was in a state, particularly after the way he just snatched her away like that. I’ve rang in the morning asked him when he will bring her back, and he said maybe or maybe not this afternoon. He was going to see solicitor, but I can’t afford a solicitor!
I’m worried if I go to court, he might have her more then usual, just to wind me up, it’s not about the little one, please believe me, it’s about him being in control. Also he is convinced that I have a boyfriend, which I don’t, and keeps asking me about him, who is he, is he seeing the little one regularly? And then gets angry when I tell him I don’t have a boyfriend! But his girlfriend nursing my baby now, when he is having her over, and I’m just expected to accept that it’s ok. Well, it’s better she is good to her then horrible I suppose.
I don’t know what to do, or who to talk to. It’s more difficult because I am Russian-British, but have been in the UK for over 12 years, and im settled here, its my home here now.
Thank you for any help, and advise!
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Lara1912 · 03/10/2013 13:28
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