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Access to baby - where to start?

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NKffffffffabeee2d7X127640abcce Wed 22-May-13 10:10:12

I would be really grateful for any advice. My stepson lives in Germany, he met an English girl (K) and had a relationship with her. When she found out she was pregnant he moved to the UK to be with her and support the baby. They got a house and he found a job. Whilst living there he paid all the rent and all bills, K had a part time job as well as claiming benefits but did not contribute to these bills though she did pay for food and had paid the deposit on the rent.

About three months ago the relationship ended, it was K's decision though DSS wanted to continue. She left the house and moved in with her family. Around this time DSS lost his job. He looked for other work but then decided that as he has no family, friends or links in the UK it was best for him to move back to Germany where he had an offer of work. He paid off all remaining bills at the house. Though things had been relatively civil until then, at this stage K wanted the deposit back. DSS didn't give her any of it on the basis that he had paid all rent and bills and needed the money for moving home.

Since then K has refused to speak to him at all. The due date for the birth has passed but he doesn't know if he is a father. K has also ignored contact from me and DH. DSS contacted her mum yesterday and she said that K will not allow him an access or any information about the baby, he doesn't deserve it as he robbed her of the deposit.

We really need some advice from anyone who knows this area. What are his legal rights? Do DH and I have an as grandparents? (Step in my case). I am a bit lost as to where to start. DSS wants to visit the UK and see his child and would travel for court processes as much as possible but needs advice by phone or email initially. Can anyone help with what we should do please?

Spero Sun 02-Jun-13 17:39:19

Really classy emoticon use there.

honey86 Fri 07-Jun-13 19:39:58

<glances at recent story of father slitting kids necks on first day of unsupervised contact>
yes... women kill kids more hmm

i do think its wrong to drag kids between two homes, splitting then 50:50 like they are some kind of possession.

TuTuTilly Mon 10-Jun-13 19:58:54

I'd advise your DSS to get a DNA test to make sure he is the baby's father.

kittycat68 Wed 12-Jun-13 08:51:55

OP, please try to have a balanced view, nobody knows here what went on in their relationship or why communication has broken down except the parties themselves.

Plase remember too this is a forum of people opinions !!!

There are some on here that are clearly biased and promote there own opinions based on there own bad relationships.

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