My Dsis has 2 year old DS. She split up with his Dad earlier this year as his drug habit was a problem (he smokes copious amounts of marajuana) and he was becoming emotionally abusive and threatening towards her.
He has threatened to 'snatch' their DS and take him abroad to the country where his family lives. Dsis now has a non-molestation order in place. They have an informal contact arrangement in place atm whereby ex sees DS every 2 weeks but he wants overnight contact. Their DS stayed with him for a night over Christmas (again no court involvement but purely informal arrangement). Ex has had to sign an undertaking not to smoke drugs when DS is in his care and has also to provide him with his own bed if he stays the night. Dsis said after the overnight stay DS (and all his stuff) came back reeking of smoke and DS told her that he had slept in bed with Daddy.
Advice from her solicitor is 'I understand your concerns but he WILL get contact'. Dsis does not have so much of an issue with daytime contact but is very reluctant to let him stay overnight again.
Apparently nobody has to check up on whether ex is sticking to the undertakings he signed. Is there any way she could fight overnight contact? Does anyone know whether there is some system for checking whether he is actually smoking drugs around their DS (obviously she doesn't want him to smoke at all in DS's presence not just drugs but that's probably a tougher argument). It makes me so angry that she seems to have to relinquish so much decision-making power about what is good/not for her DS.
Does anyone have any experience of this kind of situation? All advice gratefully received.
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Natmu · 04/02/2013 11:26
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