We have been divorced 8 years.
Friday night he phoned me to tell me he would not be havind DD this weekend as weather could make returning her an issue, he then started saying that he needed me to sign a document and threw in the words paying off part of mortgage, moving house, of course was covered in the divorce and I'll drop it off during the week - I was not concentrating very much on what he was saying as I was driving and was concnetrating on the road but it's something to do with an endowment policy apparently.
I did say was it covered in the original financial part of the divorce and he said yes (although not sure I would trust him as far as I could throw him) and that of course due to the fact that it has been him paying it I wouldn't be entitled to anything anyway.
Now - I don't need the money really - DH and I are very comfortable - BUT should I look into this further and not just sign the paperwork. Surely if he was honest about the policy when we did get divorced he would have had me sign something to remove my name from the policy when the divorce was finalised not 8 years later when he is getting the money???????????????
I know it is pathetic but part of me wants to tell him I have to take the document to a solicitor just to scare him a bit - our divorce wasn't good - after the violence he threw me out and I had to fight for custody of DD for just over 2 years - he made my life hell and I only saw DD at weekends or when he allowed me. It was a horrendous time and I will never get over the shit he put me through when it was his mother (who I hated - more so now) who was going to be the one bringing up the daughter she had never had.
Its bitterness that is keeping me from jusr whipping out my pen - but also I suppose wondering if legally I should have it looked at first - if he did not declare it in the divorce he was naughty and is not just trying to gloss over things and have me sign a legal document.
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MadameCastafiore · 20/01/2013 07:04
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