hello can anyone help me or give me any information as to where i stand? i will try to keep this short.
i have just recieved a solicitors letter sent to my work from my ex partner demanding contact with my son. he is not my sons father, my son is 7 years old.
we had a very on/off relationship that spanned out over 5 years. he was an extremely abusive partner, an alcoholic and a complete narcissist. he was constantly physically violent and emotionally abusive. he was arrested several times but never charged as i always dropped charges. i also had to be treated in hospital a few times. he is extremely manipulative and during my time with him i was an emotional wreck, life was awful.
the last time we got back together i had left him for a year, during that time he got sober and became an active member of AA. with his constant pressurising to get back together i decided to give him another chance, this time it lasted around 5 or 6 months before i knew things hadnt really changed that much. he wasnt drinking or physically abusive but still very contolling and emotionally unstable. we have now been completely seperated for 18 months and i know i will never go back. during this time he has constantly harrassed me asking to get back together and to see my son.i have even had to move house. a few months ago i contacted the police who asked him to leave me alone but to be honest the police even made me feel bad about keeping my son away as he had charmed them into believing he is now mr perfect. he has now been sober 3 years, has a good job and spends his spare time travelling and talking about AA.
He did have a good relationship with my son, although the arguing, the violence and smashing up my home was always done infront of him and he does remember. he has a great relationship with his father and sees him regularily. my son understands that sometimes boyfriends come and go but his dad is always there.
i do not want my ex to come back into our lives, life has been great since i am finally free. i am really worried, i will ignore this letter but i know the next step would be an application through the courts for contact. has he any chance of it being granted?
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njhc · 06/05/2012 08:13
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