Basically put in a claim about an absent father and so on.
Anyways the first claimed made was closed due to lack of information.I then reopened a case again which was due to be closed, however i told them this is his contact number and you shouldn't have any problem contacting him and after a little go at them they then got a result.
Anyways my XP contacted me saying has the CSA been in contact with me in the sense of obviously he thinks he has one on me kind of thing and boasting about the fact no actions has been taken atm.
Anyways i called them to check out what happening and they told me they have all his details etc and my XP is denying he is the father one of those typical scenarios and somone should be in contact to ask further questions.
He isn't on the birth certificate for personal reasons however there no doubt there on both sides about him not being the father,the fact he told an official body that has really annoyed me and thought to think he would pull such a stunt to get out of paying really does disgust me ..esp for my child sake
A part of me is telling me to drop the case and let him go about his business if that his attitude.( and make do with managing myself)
Another part saying stick it out, i have nothing to hide and he should be contributing like every other father does out there.
I know some people reading this come across cases of women falsely accusing men of being the father and i know there are small majorinity of women that just want money and purposely get into such situations.
My situation are none of above and if anything,i never knew things would turn out the they have or i would of avoided the situation in the first place.The breakdown was due to ex inlaws and his childish approach to everything
Anyways it been 6months of managing on my own ,i wasn't exactly thinking about getting the csa involved but since he hasn't showed any financial support i believe it the only option i have to atleast help out a little eventhough it not going 2 be much.Anyways he tried the excuse of i will used the money for myself and all that ,and i told him well i am not asking for cash if that how you feel go out and buy our child the things she needs and he still turned the suggested down as far as i was concerned it eases the pressure of me if he was to buy nappies or other bits my dd needs.
Anyways i haven't spoken to him in a while but i know when this csa business goes through he may start up about contact issues because he paying he assume he should have the right to have contact when he likes etc.
What your advise on handling with the situation ?
How long will the whole process take with the CSA taking into account the stage we already at?
Shall i continue with the csa case or not ?
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AMummyFromNotts · 14/04/2012 15:30
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