Hi there. I haven't posted on mumsnet for a few years but am really struggling to know what to make of this whole situation and would really value any advice. I'll give a brief history.
Had a very messy separation from ex husband 4 years ago. Both of us are now in new stable relationships. We have 2 children, now 7 and 9 between us. Since we split they have spent every other weekend with him and one day in the week. I offered to split the school holidays at the time but he never took me up on it. Basically things have been fairly ok between us. We would swap weekends, split xmas and share birthdays etc.
Until last week. Without any mention to me about wanting to see more of the children he has sent me a letter demanding joint custody, saying he wants them 3 days one week 4 the next. This is the next natural step apparently, after 4 years! He is requesting i go to mediation, with in the next 21 days or he will take me to court. I should add here i'm due to give birth in the next 2 weeks! I feel like he's being completely unreasonable. I knew what he had planned because he had already told the children they were going to live with him half the time as i would soon be too busy with the new baby!
Don't know if its relevent but he's behind on his child maintenence and they finally caught up with him 2 weeks ago. He's been livid ever since. The cynic in me thinks he's just trying to a) get back at me, or b) reduce his monthly payments.
Ive always encouraged him to spend time, have a relationship with the children, which he does, when it suits him but is also quick to swan off on holiday leaving me to cover his days without checking first. I just feel like Its taken this long to get the children settled into a routine. They know what they do each day etc, and once again he's messing it all up.
Sorry for rambling, Thanks for reading. xx
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millyk · 21/02/2012 15:01
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