been told to post this here regarding contact issues...

[Happylander]

My ex has recently walked out on me and moved in with his OW. He is now threatening to take my son and apply for custody and told me he has already filled in the paperwork. I have now told him he can only see my DS in my company as I am terrified he won't bring my DS back.

He left me out of the blue on 31st October. I had no idea he was unhappy. we had been having a stressful time as we had a GMC hearing in regards to the extremely negligent Dr that nearly killed me when I had our DS. I have PTSD, a stressful job and a 2 year old and so was knackered pretty much most of the time and don't sleep well.

I suspected it must be because of this woman but he denied it but I then found out he had moved straight in with her. Understandably I am hurt and angry. I have asked him to have DS on a few occasions to be told no he had plans etc etc. He then sent me dates he wanted DS I agreed with them all and asked why none of them were overnights and he said he couldn't afford it. It is £29 in the premier inn down the road!! I also asked him to have DS while I went on a booked and paid for trip to Scotland and he ignored all texts and so I asked him if I needed to get someone else and he said go ahead. I did. He then later changed his mind but I told him he couldn't mess me about like that and I was sticking to the arranged child care plans. He then went to CSA to give me less money. Started to threaten me with taking DS.

He was due to see DS two Sundays ago but told me a week beforehand that he had a ball to go and so would need to change the day. I had already made plans with friends for the friday and saturday so told him no that he had to stick to sunday. He then called me all sorts of names and told me i should change my plans and what was so important about my plans that I couldn't change them! I refused as it was a date he had chosen and felt it was unfair to expect me to change plans at such short notice and just so he could get drunk with his OW.

Abusive and threatening phone calls have happened since then and I no longer answer phone to him. He told me 2 days ago he was going to court that day to get custody as after so many threats I refused to let him see our DS without me being there. Then today he emailed me to say that unless I let him take DS he was sending the paperwork in and he had all that he needed to win. he has told me previously that a judge would easily give him custody over me.

I am finding it all very difficult to deal with.

[Santa5l1ttleHelper]

It's such early days in your split. Maybe you could suggest going for mediation and perhaps he could see that your little boy is the important one here. Above all else children need routine and to know what is happening. It must be such a confusing time for your ds.
Sounds as though you've had a really rough time. Perhaps mediation could make him think more rationally. Believe me you want to avoid the courts. Good luck