Namechanged as I bet EX's solicitor is on here.
I am gearing up (mainly financially) to write a will outlining what I would like to happen with DD in case of my early death. However, would my wishes have any kind of bearing if my DD's father had other plans for her? He already stated he would not be able to take care of her full time due to his age (he's much older than me but still ) and first time I brought the subject up, he concluded that it would be best for our DD to be given up for adoption .
Weeeell, I don't fucking think so. I have a very close couple of friends who kindly agreed to be my DD's legal guardians and it's paramount to me that they would take care of her. My family is too old/ we have too different view points so DD wouldn't go to them but I would like her to stay in contact with them and know about me, etc. and I know my friends would facilitate that.
EX's first reaction was to say that if they go through the adoption screening (whatever that means as there would no plans for them to adopt her) than that's fine. I may add that they are a gay couple so I'm guessing that's why he was reluctant. Then after I expressed my, erm, disappointment, he grandly said he would try to stick to the will as much as possible and follow my wishes. The thing is he has changed his mind so often about things (not all changes bad TBF) over the last 21 months, I can't be sure he'd do that.
So is there any point in me having a will re DD if he outlives me?
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IWillNotDanceIWillNotPrance · 08/12/2011 22:38
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